In need of advice on what to do with what I think as my husband's emotional affair.*
Last Saturday, I was confronted by a friend in our church who my husband texts. Before DH sent her messages, he tried to call her first and she didn't answer. She showed me my hubby's inappropriate messages and the convo went on like this.
Hubby: How're you?
Lady: Im fine, thanks.
H: Are you at work?
L: Why?
H: I heard you live near my workplace. Could I come over to your house in my free times during the week?
L: Is that so? It's not possible as I'm alone.
H: It's ok. I won't tell anybody that I'll be staying at your place on my free time.
L: It's not possible.
H: Ok then, just please don't tell anyone I chatted. Please.
For the next few days, he messaged her "hi" a few times more and she never replied. Then from then on, hubby didn't message her anymore.
For the record, she said he was texting flirty messages to her 4 years ago but she didn't respond back then as she was in a relationship. We weren't married at that time yet but we were in a serious relationship.
I confronted him on the same day I found out. He's in defensive mode, saying his intentions were innocent, that he just wanted to hang out at her place as it's closw to his workplace. It's nothing sexual or anything as he claims. He said he was sorry and is willing to change his ways. He realized it was wrong to text a woman without letting me know much more hanging out in her place without my consent! Unconvinced and hurt, I left our house Saturday evening asking for space and went back yesterday night to take more of my things. He then argued that if I leave him, I'm not giving him a chance to prove himself that nothing's going on and that he's gonna change and we can't work on fixing things when I'm away. So I stayed for the night yesterday, treating him coldly but we had sex. Stupid me... We missed each other so bad when I left for 3 days. I'm still at loss on what to do with him and our marriage... Help!
Last Saturday, I was confronted by a friend in our church who my husband texts. Before DH sent her messages, he tried to call her first and she didn't answer. She showed me my hubby's inappropriate messages and the convo went on like this.
Hubby: How're you?
Lady: Im fine, thanks.
H: Are you at work?
L: Why?
H: I heard you live near my workplace. Could I come over to your house in my free times during the week?
L: Is that so? It's not possible as I'm alone.
H: It's ok. I won't tell anybody that I'll be staying at your place on my free time.
L: It's not possible.
H: Ok then, just please don't tell anyone I chatted. Please.
For the next few days, he messaged her "hi" a few times more and she never replied. Then from then on, hubby didn't message her anymore.
For the record, she said he was texting flirty messages to her 4 years ago but she didn't respond back then as she was in a relationship. We weren't married at that time yet but we were in a serious relationship.
I confronted him on the same day I found out. He's in defensive mode, saying his intentions were innocent, that he just wanted to hang out at her place as it's closw to his workplace. It's nothing sexual or anything as he claims. He said he was sorry and is willing to change his ways. He realized it was wrong to text a woman without letting me know much more hanging out in her place without my consent! Unconvinced and hurt, I left our house Saturday evening asking for space and went back yesterday night to take more of my things. He then argued that if I leave him, I'm not giving him a chance to prove himself that nothing's going on and that he's gonna change and we can't work on fixing things when I'm away. So I stayed for the night yesterday, treating him coldly but we had sex. Stupid me... We missed each other so bad when I left for 3 days. I'm still at loss on what to do with him and our marriage... Help!
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