Thanks in advance for your recommendations and input.
Our story in a nutshell-
Me(28) FT Healthcare professional
Him (31) FT job looking to transition careers
Us: Been dating for 1 year. For the first 9 months we lived about 45 mins apart, now 1.5 hours due to me relocating temporarily to be with my mother who was diagnosed with cancer approximately a year ago. We see each other primarily on weekends.
First off, we are very committed to one another and make time for one another despite our crazy schedules. We communicate well, love each others family and friends, and have similar goals and expectations for the future. We have discussed marriage in the future.
I have become increasingly short with him the last month as I feel his actions regarding his schooling are not acceptable. He works 7 pm to 7 am with a 1 hour commute to work each way. He complains daily about always being tired and hating his job. He has a Bachelor's degree, but needs to take 4 additional classes to be eligible for a SKILLS training to become an officer (his goal). He enrolled in a summer class (1 of 4) with no deadlines but many assignments. With only about 3 weeks of the course left, I became concerned as he hadn't even looked at the material. With 2 weeks left, I offered to help out do some of the assignments. I ended up doing all the assignments. He just kept pushing it off and saying I'll do it...then not prioritizing it. It consumed all my nights and stressed me out as I am working full time too.
Basically, I am wondering if I give him too much slack by not getting that stuff done? I just feel bad; he literally gets 6 hours of sleep each day of the week, then transitions to days by staying up all day...spends the weekends with me and doesn't have much free time? I'm concerned if he worked 8 hour days that he still would procrastinate and put stuff off though. I did not push him in any way to go to school.
He is very neat and clean. The rest of his life is mostly in order. He's slightly irresponsible (in my eyes) with money. He is bad at managing his time and spends a lot of time bull****ting with his friends and family.
I'm very type A...something needs to be done and I immediately check it off the to do list.
What advise do you have about our situation?
Our story in a nutshell-
Me(28) FT Healthcare professional
Him (31) FT job looking to transition careers
Us: Been dating for 1 year. For the first 9 months we lived about 45 mins apart, now 1.5 hours due to me relocating temporarily to be with my mother who was diagnosed with cancer approximately a year ago. We see each other primarily on weekends.
First off, we are very committed to one another and make time for one another despite our crazy schedules. We communicate well, love each others family and friends, and have similar goals and expectations for the future. We have discussed marriage in the future.
I have become increasingly short with him the last month as I feel his actions regarding his schooling are not acceptable. He works 7 pm to 7 am with a 1 hour commute to work each way. He complains daily about always being tired and hating his job. He has a Bachelor's degree, but needs to take 4 additional classes to be eligible for a SKILLS training to become an officer (his goal). He enrolled in a summer class (1 of 4) with no deadlines but many assignments. With only about 3 weeks of the course left, I became concerned as he hadn't even looked at the material. With 2 weeks left, I offered to help out do some of the assignments. I ended up doing all the assignments. He just kept pushing it off and saying I'll do it...then not prioritizing it. It consumed all my nights and stressed me out as I am working full time too.
Basically, I am wondering if I give him too much slack by not getting that stuff done? I just feel bad; he literally gets 6 hours of sleep each day of the week, then transitions to days by staying up all day...spends the weekends with me and doesn't have much free time? I'm concerned if he worked 8 hour days that he still would procrastinate and put stuff off though. I did not push him in any way to go to school.
He is very neat and clean. The rest of his life is mostly in order. He's slightly irresponsible (in my eyes) with money. He is bad at managing his time and spends a lot of time bull****ting with his friends and family.
I'm very type A...something needs to be done and I immediately check it off the to do list.
What advise do you have about our situation?
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