My wife and I have been together for 10 years. We met while I was still married to my ex-wife. Our relationship has been tumultuous and rocky for most of our marriage. There is a lot to say, and one thread just won't cover it all. Lately our (well her) fights are becoming more and more frequent. I am honestly sick of the drama. We have four children in the house and she is a stay-at-home wife. I mean this in the literal sense....she is a wife, and she stays at home. Nothing else. I work nights and sleep during the daytime. When I get home in the morning, I get the kids ready, take them to school, come home, spend some time with her, then go to sleep. I get up around 3, go pick the kids up from school, come home, do some chores (laundry, cleaning, etc), then cook dinner and make sure the kids have a bath. My wife sits on the couch the whole time, not moving. I am sick of feeling like a single father. She literally never moves. She's not over weight, out of shape, or disabled. She is just lazy.
Our (her) fights center on our not going anywhere, not doing enough family things, my not listening to her, and us not having a conversation, but what do you talk about with a woman that does nothing all day and all night? We do talk about the kids, a particular TV show we are watching, etc. How do you go somewhere with someone that never wants to leave the house?
If she wants something, I get it for her. If she asks me to do something for her, I do it. I try my best to be attentive to her needs, but her emotional needs are daunting. I admit, I am not an emotional person, I am more of a logical thinker and cannot really change that part of my personality. She came with some baggage when we met, but who doesn't? I try to be understanding however; I am getting sick of being treated like a step and fetch it bi$%h. I am also getting more tired of her wanting to argue all the time. Divorce and/or separation are seeming like more of a welcome option. My friends don't understand how I stay in this marriage and give me props for putting up with it all. They have met and know her, so this is not all a one-sided issue with them and their opinions either, just to clear that up.
So, to leave or to stay? Note: I have also scheduled marriage counseling three (3) times and she has either refused to go, or refused to continue after the therapist told her she was not in the right. So, thoughts................
Our (her) fights center on our not going anywhere, not doing enough family things, my not listening to her, and us not having a conversation, but what do you talk about with a woman that does nothing all day and all night? We do talk about the kids, a particular TV show we are watching, etc. How do you go somewhere with someone that never wants to leave the house?
If she wants something, I get it for her. If she asks me to do something for her, I do it. I try my best to be attentive to her needs, but her emotional needs are daunting. I admit, I am not an emotional person, I am more of a logical thinker and cannot really change that part of my personality. She came with some baggage when we met, but who doesn't? I try to be understanding however; I am getting sick of being treated like a step and fetch it bi$%h. I am also getting more tired of her wanting to argue all the time. Divorce and/or separation are seeming like more of a welcome option. My friends don't understand how I stay in this marriage and give me props for putting up with it all. They have met and know her, so this is not all a one-sided issue with them and their opinions either, just to clear that up.
So, to leave or to stay? Note: I have also scheduled marriage counseling three (3) times and she has either refused to go, or refused to continue after the therapist told her she was not in the right. So, thoughts................
Put the internet to work for you.
No comments:
Post a Comment