My wife and I got married young (19,17) we had two children right after and now after 3 1/2 years we are divorced. It started right after we got married my wife noticed porn on my computer and told me she didn't want me watching it. I agreed but found out it was much harder to stop than I thought it would be. So I was stupid and lied to her about not doing it anymore. After almost a year I finally stopped and I came clean to her about it. She was devastated but we worked through it. After 2 years I always asked her if she was over it and trusted me again. She said she did 100% and was over it. Those two years were perfect to me, expect that she never wanted to have sex anymore, but I was able to live with that becauseI loved her so much. We were a perfect match on everything else. We are both great parents to our kids, we get along better than I ever did with anyone else.
Earlier this year I discovered she was cheating on me with a guy from her work, which I got her a job at back when I still worked there. They affair last 3 months before I found out about it and confronted them one night after following her to meet him. They met up every night after work behind their work and made out and talked. She said they did oral to each other twice each and had sex one time. I found hundreds of texts between them which was nothing but sexual texts. The whole relationship seemed to be sexual only. She even took over 30 naked pictures for him and sent them to him while he never sent her one.
When I asked how it happened she said that she just never got over what I did to her and she didn't know how to tell me. I always asked her if she was over it and she said yes. I asked her all the time of she was over it and she said yes. She said he came on to her and she was just on a bad spot and didn't know what she wanted so she went along with it.
She felt horrible after I confronted her and did a complete 180. She became the perfect wife and tried her hardest to make it right. We started having sex again a lot, at least everyday. She let me follow her, go through her phone whenever I wanted, and never went an hour without telling me how sorry she was and how much she realized she loved me and didn't want to lose me. After a month I asked for a separation because I couldn't handle the anger and hurt from imagining her having sex with another man.
She has never had another boyfriend or even another guy from her whole life aside from me. I was her first everything. I NEVER thought she would ever do this. It was completely out of character for her because she doesn't even like people and has zero friends. They just happened to work together and it was the first time she had ever been hit on by any guy other than me.
After about 2 months after we separated I filed for divorce. I always told her that I couldn't handle cheating. We just signed the divorce papers 3 days ago. She begged me not to do it but agreed to do it if it was what I wanted. Since we signed I stopped talking to her because it hurts so much to talk to her about anything other than our kids. She keeps texting me telling me how she is not giving up on me and loves and wants to make this right.
Now that we are divorced I suddenly am having regrets and am second guessing myself. I always think about just messaging her back and saying ok let's get back together. Then other times I say to myself no because she cheated. It's just back and forth. I also can't stand the thought that she can do whatever she wants with a guy and I can't stop her or even have the right to be mad. I don't know what to do, is this normal to feel this way? It hurts so much. Please help!
Earlier this year I discovered she was cheating on me with a guy from her work, which I got her a job at back when I still worked there. They affair last 3 months before I found out about it and confronted them one night after following her to meet him. They met up every night after work behind their work and made out and talked. She said they did oral to each other twice each and had sex one time. I found hundreds of texts between them which was nothing but sexual texts. The whole relationship seemed to be sexual only. She even took over 30 naked pictures for him and sent them to him while he never sent her one.
When I asked how it happened she said that she just never got over what I did to her and she didn't know how to tell me. I always asked her if she was over it and she said yes. I asked her all the time of she was over it and she said yes. She said he came on to her and she was just on a bad spot and didn't know what she wanted so she went along with it.
She felt horrible after I confronted her and did a complete 180. She became the perfect wife and tried her hardest to make it right. We started having sex again a lot, at least everyday. She let me follow her, go through her phone whenever I wanted, and never went an hour without telling me how sorry she was and how much she realized she loved me and didn't want to lose me. After a month I asked for a separation because I couldn't handle the anger and hurt from imagining her having sex with another man.
She has never had another boyfriend or even another guy from her whole life aside from me. I was her first everything. I NEVER thought she would ever do this. It was completely out of character for her because she doesn't even like people and has zero friends. They just happened to work together and it was the first time she had ever been hit on by any guy other than me.
After about 2 months after we separated I filed for divorce. I always told her that I couldn't handle cheating. We just signed the divorce papers 3 days ago. She begged me not to do it but agreed to do it if it was what I wanted. Since we signed I stopped talking to her because it hurts so much to talk to her about anything other than our kids. She keeps texting me telling me how she is not giving up on me and loves and wants to make this right.
Now that we are divorced I suddenly am having regrets and am second guessing myself. I always think about just messaging her back and saying ok let's get back together. Then other times I say to myself no because she cheated. It's just back and forth. I also can't stand the thought that she can do whatever she wants with a guy and I can't stop her or even have the right to be mad. I don't know what to do, is this normal to feel this way? It hurts so much. Please help!
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