I know the topic has been discussed before but I am looking for some additional perspective here:
I came to TAM on the heels of my ex-wife walking away from what I thought was a solid 25 year relationship.
When I first came here I was looking for answers, First to her decision to lea, then to her decision to divorce, then to all the issues that arose from the divorce and finally to trying to make sense of it all after everything was final.
Early on the advice given never really made sense because I was still seeing things thru the eyes of a shattered man.
Later some of the early advice started to sink in and I was able to begin my recovery.
I used to have what I thought was a very condescending view of people who were divorced. I did so from the perspective of a happily married man. I considered them broken people.
Now I find myself amongst the divorced. But I am having trouble shaking my previous views. Mainly because I feel broken and I see so many broken people as I journey forth into my new life.
I no longer have the unshakable faith in love that I once had. I no longer have the faith that I will ever trust again. As I said I feel broken
These feelings are reinforced by the people I am meeting along the way. Men and women who remain bitter and angry years after their divorces. Damaged people. I feel as though I am in the land of misfit toys.
I don't know if it is just my perception of this as an issue based on my past feelings or if I am perceiving reality clearly but am unable to accept it.
If it is the former what suggestions can anyone make to help me change my perception. If it is the latter what suggestions could one make to help me accept it
I came to TAM on the heels of my ex-wife walking away from what I thought was a solid 25 year relationship.
When I first came here I was looking for answers, First to her decision to lea, then to her decision to divorce, then to all the issues that arose from the divorce and finally to trying to make sense of it all after everything was final.
Early on the advice given never really made sense because I was still seeing things thru the eyes of a shattered man.
Later some of the early advice started to sink in and I was able to begin my recovery.
I used to have what I thought was a very condescending view of people who were divorced. I did so from the perspective of a happily married man. I considered them broken people.
Now I find myself amongst the divorced. But I am having trouble shaking my previous views. Mainly because I feel broken and I see so many broken people as I journey forth into my new life.
I no longer have the unshakable faith in love that I once had. I no longer have the faith that I will ever trust again. As I said I feel broken
These feelings are reinforced by the people I am meeting along the way. Men and women who remain bitter and angry years after their divorces. Damaged people. I feel as though I am in the land of misfit toys.
I don't know if it is just my perception of this as an issue based on my past feelings or if I am perceiving reality clearly but am unable to accept it.
If it is the former what suggestions can anyone make to help me change my perception. If it is the latter what suggestions could one make to help me accept it
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