Background info: Husband's father was deported 9 years ago from the US for over staying his visa. Husband's mother was severely depressed by this, didn't want to learn how to drive and didn't work at all (she never worked her whole life). Husband's youngest brother, who was 14 at the time, came here as a baby and knew the US as home.
All three of them had orders of deportation. So at the time, I suggested to my husband who was then 22, that his mother and youngest brother go back to their country voluntarily to be with the father. And that unless he's ready to raise a teenager, that this would probably be best, that way the younger brother will have both parents to raise him and none of them have to live looking over their shoulders. Husband and his older brother who was then 26, then agreed that this was the way to go and now the father, mother and younger brother are all back in their country together.
Present: Their country has a bad economy and the parents STILL have not gotten a job and they always ask us for money. And the youngest brother is now 16 and wants to come back to the states. I asked my husband where he's going to stay, who's going to pay for him and sponsor him and if his older brother would be helping? My husband told me that he blames me because I planted the idea in his head. Etc. Etc. So, in your opinion, was it wrong for my to suggest this route? Because everyone seems to blame me.
All three of them had orders of deportation. So at the time, I suggested to my husband who was then 22, that his mother and youngest brother go back to their country voluntarily to be with the father. And that unless he's ready to raise a teenager, that this would probably be best, that way the younger brother will have both parents to raise him and none of them have to live looking over their shoulders. Husband and his older brother who was then 26, then agreed that this was the way to go and now the father, mother and younger brother are all back in their country together.
Present: Their country has a bad economy and the parents STILL have not gotten a job and they always ask us for money. And the youngest brother is now 16 and wants to come back to the states. I asked my husband where he's going to stay, who's going to pay for him and sponsor him and if his older brother would be helping? My husband told me that he blames me because I planted the idea in his head. Etc. Etc. So, in your opinion, was it wrong for my to suggest this route? Because everyone seems to blame me.
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