I'm sure this topic is on here a thousand times but this is my situation and I really need to vent to someone because I don't have anyone to talk to.
My husband and I have been together for 8 1/2 years and married for 2. We started out young. I was 16 and he was 21. We lost our virginity to one another. I feel and always have felt that he just settled for me. I'm the first girl that gave it up to him so he decided he better keep me around. Our relationship was good until about 7 months ago.
Now it just seems like he's sick of me. He gets irritated about a lot of things. He never wants to talk to me or do things with me. We do work at the same place so we see a lot more of ech other than most people do but still we need to do things together outside of work to as we'll as have our time apart. In the summer he goes away every weekend to fish so I mean its not like we never have time apart.
He doesn't want to have sex any more either. I don't know if this is some kind of sign that he's cheating or thinking about cheating but either way that kind of hurts. We've never had the greatest sex life bc I think maybe he expected a lot more sexually out of me and he didn't get the kind of sexlife he wanted. And of course as a women I'm insecure about my body so I've always been weird about that but it's nothing new.
I've tried to talk to him about how I'm feeling and he just brushes it off as I'm being clingy or something. Also I know that he has a little crush on someone at work, which in my opinion is natural. Everyone has crushes at some point. I've had them. I would never act on it but I've had crushes on men. He tells me that I'm just jealous and that's why I'm being so needy lately.
Also I had a miscarriage last year and I don't know if he resents me because I couldn't carry his child or what. He was so wxcited when we found out I was pregnant and he was so upset when I lost it. I feel like he holds it against me or something.
I don't know what to do. I cry all the time because I just don't know how to make this better.
My husband and I have been together for 8 1/2 years and married for 2. We started out young. I was 16 and he was 21. We lost our virginity to one another. I feel and always have felt that he just settled for me. I'm the first girl that gave it up to him so he decided he better keep me around. Our relationship was good until about 7 months ago.
Now it just seems like he's sick of me. He gets irritated about a lot of things. He never wants to talk to me or do things with me. We do work at the same place so we see a lot more of ech other than most people do but still we need to do things together outside of work to as we'll as have our time apart. In the summer he goes away every weekend to fish so I mean its not like we never have time apart.
He doesn't want to have sex any more either. I don't know if this is some kind of sign that he's cheating or thinking about cheating but either way that kind of hurts. We've never had the greatest sex life bc I think maybe he expected a lot more sexually out of me and he didn't get the kind of sexlife he wanted. And of course as a women I'm insecure about my body so I've always been weird about that but it's nothing new.
I've tried to talk to him about how I'm feeling and he just brushes it off as I'm being clingy or something. Also I know that he has a little crush on someone at work, which in my opinion is natural. Everyone has crushes at some point. I've had them. I would never act on it but I've had crushes on men. He tells me that I'm just jealous and that's why I'm being so needy lately.
Also I had a miscarriage last year and I don't know if he resents me because I couldn't carry his child or what. He was so wxcited when we found out I was pregnant and he was so upset when I lost it. I feel like he holds it against me or something.
I don't know what to do. I cry all the time because I just don't know how to make this better.
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