Another thread brought up a subject I'd like to hear opinions on.
How do you value authenticity of a response to something undesirable one spouse did against the value of open communication, which a charged emotional backlash may shut down?
When someone we care about reacts extremely negatively to our expressed desires, the tendency of most, I think, is to back off of that desire. So in a manner of speaking extreme emotional reactions are also control mechanisms.
The person expressing the want is left with a choice to continue behaving openly and honestly at the risk of extreme hostility and upsetting their partner, or retreating and becoming less open and honest.
The person reacting to the expressed want is left with a choice to react authentically emotionally hostile, potentially shut down their partner's openness, or repress themselves for the sake of open communication.
How do you handle this in your relationships?
How do you value authenticity of a response to something undesirable one spouse did against the value of open communication, which a charged emotional backlash may shut down?
When someone we care about reacts extremely negatively to our expressed desires, the tendency of most, I think, is to back off of that desire. So in a manner of speaking extreme emotional reactions are also control mechanisms.
The person expressing the want is left with a choice to continue behaving openly and honestly at the risk of extreme hostility and upsetting their partner, or retreating and becoming less open and honest.
The person reacting to the expressed want is left with a choice to react authentically emotionally hostile, potentially shut down their partner's openness, or repress themselves for the sake of open communication.
How do you handle this in your relationships?
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