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Proposed specificity for discussion, learning, growth of LD HD knowledge base
Proposed LD definition - a spouse whose craving for sex is low enough as to be so unsatisfying to their HD spouse that their HD uncontrollably, continuously, intensively and bitterly considers every conceivable option including ending the marriage in an absurdly, all-consuming, level of frustration
Proposed HD definition - a spouse whose sexual cravings are high enough as to be unmet by spouse so completely as to be fully consumed by sexual frustration and resentment even if and when sexual activity is noticeably but moderately increased by their LD
Type 1 LD - Not attracted to spouse
Can it be turned into a sexually satisfying marriage? Yes
Possible solution available for HD spouse - Aggressive re attraction program including consistent 180 behaviors and remarkable level of romantic pursuit and providing spouses needs in their top three love languages being mindful of their rank of 1st 2nd and 3rd
Probability of resolution with highly skilled implementation of solution - 100%, Satisfaction level 100%
Probability of resolution with moderately skilled implementation of solution - 50%, satisfaction level 50%
Probability of resolution with poorly skilled implementation of solution - 10%, satisfaction level 30%
Common causes
1. Built up resentment from neglect aka being taken for granted
2. HD has ongoing issues - (your ideas here)
3. LD has issues - (your ideas here)
Type II LD - Always been LD (unknown during honeymoon phase) aka Bait and Switch
Description - Sexually satisfying until the bio-chemical reactions cease and frequent sexual activity taper off back to their natural state with0out the influence of new love biochemistry
Solution available for HD spouse - LD maturely increases sexual activity for love of HD. HD accepts LD natural level of cravings
Probability of fully satisfying resolution - 0%
Probability of barely satisfying resolution - 100%
Method of solution - communication and mutual give and take from each spouse
Type III - Lazy, selfish
Possible solution - Guilt and shame
Duration of solution - On and off for days or weeks back to same ol rotten Shiite
Probability of ultimate resolution other than divorce -
ZERO
Type IV - Cheater getting it elsewhere
Possible solution -
Probability of resolution -
OK What else you got people?
Proposed specificity for discussion, learning, growth of LD HD knowledge base
Proposed LD definition - a spouse whose craving for sex is low enough as to be so unsatisfying to their HD spouse that their HD uncontrollably, continuously, intensively and bitterly considers every conceivable option including ending the marriage in an absurdly, all-consuming, level of frustration
Proposed HD definition - a spouse whose sexual cravings are high enough as to be unmet by spouse so completely as to be fully consumed by sexual frustration and resentment even if and when sexual activity is noticeably but moderately increased by their LD
Type 1 LD - Not attracted to spouse
Can it be turned into a sexually satisfying marriage? Yes
Possible solution available for HD spouse - Aggressive re attraction program including consistent 180 behaviors and remarkable level of romantic pursuit and providing spouses needs in their top three love languages being mindful of their rank of 1st 2nd and 3rd
Probability of resolution with highly skilled implementation of solution - 100%, Satisfaction level 100%
Probability of resolution with moderately skilled implementation of solution - 50%, satisfaction level 50%
Probability of resolution with poorly skilled implementation of solution - 10%, satisfaction level 30%
Common causes
1. Built up resentment from neglect aka being taken for granted
2. HD has ongoing issues - (your ideas here)
3. LD has issues - (your ideas here)
Type II LD - Always been LD (unknown during honeymoon phase) aka Bait and Switch
Description - Sexually satisfying until the bio-chemical reactions cease and frequent sexual activity taper off back to their natural state with0out the influence of new love biochemistry
Solution available for HD spouse - LD maturely increases sexual activity for love of HD. HD accepts LD natural level of cravings
Probability of fully satisfying resolution - 0%
Probability of barely satisfying resolution - 100%
Method of solution - communication and mutual give and take from each spouse
Type III - Lazy, selfish
Possible solution - Guilt and shame
Duration of solution - On and off for days or weeks back to same ol rotten Shiite
Probability of ultimate resolution other than divorce -
ZERO
Type IV - Cheater getting it elsewhere
Possible solution -
Probability of resolution -
OK What else you got people?
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