So four yearsa go we split...blah, blah, blah...
A few months after she is in her new place , the kids report to me that she has stopped smoking. I congratulate her and she tells me that her last checkup x-rays showed interstitial scarring on her lungs.
I'm supportive.
A while back I noticed butts outside of the garage when dropping off the kids.
I figure either ex-MIL or friends...
But Thursday I dropped of my youngest and we had to use the front door, which guests dont normally use.
I estimated 300-400 butts out there. I mean they were everywhere...because the snow had melted.
So I commented to my youngest that her mother was smoking again and she replied "She never stopped, Dad."
Then I remembered her making veiled references to "having only 6-10 years left." She has done this several times over the years we were divorced.
Then I put it together.
I am incensed, outraged and thoroughly bewildered.
I have always said that people are free to destroy themselves in their own ways...UNLESS THERE ARE KIDS INVOLVED.
If somebody came to me and said I "had a condition", I would be fighting it tooth, nail and tail...if only for my kids to show them that you simply NEVER give up.
Is it simply weakness?
Stupidity?
Some weird passive agressive thing?
I dont know.
I just dont understand how somebody would willingly just let it slip away.
Why would she EVER consider giving that message to her own children?
A few months after she is in her new place , the kids report to me that she has stopped smoking. I congratulate her and she tells me that her last checkup x-rays showed interstitial scarring on her lungs.
I'm supportive.
A while back I noticed butts outside of the garage when dropping off the kids.
I figure either ex-MIL or friends...
But Thursday I dropped of my youngest and we had to use the front door, which guests dont normally use.
I estimated 300-400 butts out there. I mean they were everywhere...because the snow had melted.
So I commented to my youngest that her mother was smoking again and she replied "She never stopped, Dad."
Then I remembered her making veiled references to "having only 6-10 years left." She has done this several times over the years we were divorced.
Then I put it together.
I am incensed, outraged and thoroughly bewildered.
I have always said that people are free to destroy themselves in their own ways...UNLESS THERE ARE KIDS INVOLVED.
If somebody came to me and said I "had a condition", I would be fighting it tooth, nail and tail...if only for my kids to show them that you simply NEVER give up.
Is it simply weakness?
Stupidity?
Some weird passive agressive thing?
I dont know.
I just dont understand how somebody would willingly just let it slip away.
Why would she EVER consider giving that message to her own children?
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