Hi all, I will try and be brief... first I will give background and then my dilemma.
Background:
So, my wife one night got very upset and said that she was getting a divorce and that tomorrow morning she would be going to the courthouse to get the paperwork to which I agreed.
The next day at work I got a text asking for my information so she could fill out the paperwork and asking if I really wanted a divorce. I responded with "yes I do and I will get the information to you later". Well apparently she was bluffing and now is being all sweet, caring, loving, etc... saying that she does not want the marriage to end. She suggested that we go see a marriage counselor and after doing some research I agreed.
This is not the first time she has wanted a divorce. In the last 2 years I can count 4 times she has left and wanted a divorce. She even at one point had her parents drive over 65 miles to come and take all her things and moved back in with them, came back to live with me 3 days later, and left to go live with her parents again after 2 days.
Dilemma:
Here is my dilemma. I want to get the divorce but I want to be cautious on how I do it. Right now I am being distant because I do not want to get sucked back into a bad relationship and I want to wait until we are speaking with the marriage counselor before I tell her that I am filling the papers. My entire reasoning for this is because 6 months ago when she wanted a divorce she was talking about suicide. It scarred the be-jesus outa me. I didn't know if she was serious or not but I did what it took to get her back and make sure that did not occur.
I want the divorce as I am over the top stressed with this mess but I am just looking to bounce some thoughts of you guys.
Do I wait until we see the marriage counselor?
Do I tell her before we see the counselor that I was serious and that I am filling the paper work, so I am not stringing her along and giving her a false sense of hope?
I am just lost on the proper way to handle this....:confused:
Thanks for reading, and letting me voice my thoughts,
Jupiter
Background:
So, my wife one night got very upset and said that she was getting a divorce and that tomorrow morning she would be going to the courthouse to get the paperwork to which I agreed.
The next day at work I got a text asking for my information so she could fill out the paperwork and asking if I really wanted a divorce. I responded with "yes I do and I will get the information to you later". Well apparently she was bluffing and now is being all sweet, caring, loving, etc... saying that she does not want the marriage to end. She suggested that we go see a marriage counselor and after doing some research I agreed.
This is not the first time she has wanted a divorce. In the last 2 years I can count 4 times she has left and wanted a divorce. She even at one point had her parents drive over 65 miles to come and take all her things and moved back in with them, came back to live with me 3 days later, and left to go live with her parents again after 2 days.
Dilemma:
Here is my dilemma. I want to get the divorce but I want to be cautious on how I do it. Right now I am being distant because I do not want to get sucked back into a bad relationship and I want to wait until we are speaking with the marriage counselor before I tell her that I am filling the papers. My entire reasoning for this is because 6 months ago when she wanted a divorce she was talking about suicide. It scarred the be-jesus outa me. I didn't know if she was serious or not but I did what it took to get her back and make sure that did not occur.
I want the divorce as I am over the top stressed with this mess but I am just looking to bounce some thoughts of you guys.
Do I wait until we see the marriage counselor?
Do I tell her before we see the counselor that I was serious and that I am filling the paper work, so I am not stringing her along and giving her a false sense of hope?
I am just lost on the proper way to handle this....:confused:
Thanks for reading, and letting me voice my thoughts,
Jupiter
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