Hi, new to the forum & would like some thoughts from women.
I am a 49yo guy who divorced after 20+ years of marriage. Several years later i consider myself very lucky to have met a great woman, also divorced. We get on great (have been together 3 yrs) but I find myself feeling a vague discomfort about our sex life. I had a couple of sexual partners before my marriage and several after my divorce but all were short term. I got to know my ex-wife's sexual likes and needs pretty well and was pretty confident that i could keep her happy in that department.
However, my current GF has quite different needs and I find myself a bit lost sometimes, as to how to satisfy her. She is definitely not sexually inhibited, but doesn't seem to get much out of oral sex (which I used to love to give, but get virtually no reaction from her). She seems to need very rough stimulation to reach orgasm and hands and rough intercourse will sometimes get her there.
I have mentioned my concerns although I never pressure her, and she assures me that she isn't frustrated even though she quite often won't orgasm.
I guess it sometimes leaves me feeling selfish, which reduces my enjoyment. I have no problem talking about sex openly but she doesn't seem comfortable and quickly changes the subject. I hate the thought of her being unsatisfied but too nice to tell me, or afraid I'll be offended if she says I need to do things a little differently.
Apologies for the long post, would love some feedback from a female perspective. Thanks.
I am a 49yo guy who divorced after 20+ years of marriage. Several years later i consider myself very lucky to have met a great woman, also divorced. We get on great (have been together 3 yrs) but I find myself feeling a vague discomfort about our sex life. I had a couple of sexual partners before my marriage and several after my divorce but all were short term. I got to know my ex-wife's sexual likes and needs pretty well and was pretty confident that i could keep her happy in that department.
However, my current GF has quite different needs and I find myself a bit lost sometimes, as to how to satisfy her. She is definitely not sexually inhibited, but doesn't seem to get much out of oral sex (which I used to love to give, but get virtually no reaction from her). She seems to need very rough stimulation to reach orgasm and hands and rough intercourse will sometimes get her there.
I have mentioned my concerns although I never pressure her, and she assures me that she isn't frustrated even though she quite often won't orgasm.
I guess it sometimes leaves me feeling selfish, which reduces my enjoyment. I have no problem talking about sex openly but she doesn't seem comfortable and quickly changes the subject. I hate the thought of her being unsatisfied but too nice to tell me, or afraid I'll be offended if she says I need to do things a little differently.
Apologies for the long post, would love some feedback from a female perspective. Thanks.
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