My wife has always been and avid reader. I am sure she get's through two and sometimes more per week. When our kids were little I would take them to the library and one of my tasks was to get some books for her as well. I learned her tastes in books fairly well which leaned toward popular fiction and romance. She also once told me that she preferred female authors.
Well the kids are grown and out of house now and I haven't been her book chooser for many years. To be honest I haven't really paid much attention to her books other than seeing them around the house and knowing she shares them with some of her gal pals. About a year ago the topic of cork screws came up (for some reason) and she casually mentioned that in the book she is reading somebody was killed with a cork screw. Well that peaked my curiosity and I started reading the book (I forget the title and author) and was shocked by the rape and violence in the book. Since then I have been paying attention and this genre (crime?)seems to dominate her reading.
Why should I care? Maybe I shouldn't but her reading does impact our marriage. She is in the habit of reading for 30-60 minutes in bed before going to sleep. I have learned not to violate that time. Hence we haven't had sex at night before sleep in years. What bothers me is that now I know she is going up to bed to read about rape, mutilation, murder, torture and prefers that to having me join her in bed.
Do you guys consider this a addiction?
Am I wrong to be bothered by it?
Well the kids are grown and out of house now and I haven't been her book chooser for many years. To be honest I haven't really paid much attention to her books other than seeing them around the house and knowing she shares them with some of her gal pals. About a year ago the topic of cork screws came up (for some reason) and she casually mentioned that in the book she is reading somebody was killed with a cork screw. Well that peaked my curiosity and I started reading the book (I forget the title and author) and was shocked by the rape and violence in the book. Since then I have been paying attention and this genre (crime?)seems to dominate her reading.
Why should I care? Maybe I shouldn't but her reading does impact our marriage. She is in the habit of reading for 30-60 minutes in bed before going to sleep. I have learned not to violate that time. Hence we haven't had sex at night before sleep in years. What bothers me is that now I know she is going up to bed to read about rape, mutilation, murder, torture and prefers that to having me join her in bed.
Do you guys consider this a addiction?
Am I wrong to be bothered by it?
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