Thought I'd share a little something, kind of says a lot - and shows how I've progressed - I think!
I get a call from EX on Friday - asking if he can use my truck to help a "friend" move. I said "No, I'm sorry - I have to go, I can't really talk about it right now anymore". Click.
I get a text a few hours later. Can you please let me use it, I am really in a bind. I promised my friend a truck, and now I can't find one to borrow. I said "No, you aren't insured on my plan anymore and it likely won't start anyway, it's been sitting all winter".
So, he returns son home the next day... and that is when the sh?t hit the fan. He gets out of his car, and starts telling me that I need to stop messing around, am I going to let him use it or not? I said I am confident I already answered your question, twice. He said I want a good reason why. I said, you don't need a reason other than the one I already told you. I don't answer to you anymore, remember? He started cursing and getting nasty. I turned to my son, and asked him to go in the house - and ex said "No, son.. you stay right here - its fine". So, ex turned to me again and said "I want a good reason why, you are being such a bitc..."
In a very calm, reassuring and no nasty way - I simply looked at him, and I said Ok (name)... You want your reason why? I am not your wife anymore, you left me for another woman and filed for divorce. I went on... You never not one time, this entire winter - knowing you left son and I with this big place, and no job or money, asked if we were OK, or needed help in anyway. You abandoned your responsibilities. Now that you've made another promise to someone you can't keep - it is not MY responsibility to make sure you can uphold that promise. Now, I ask that you please leave, and don't ask to borrow my truck or any other thing again. Have a nice day.
I turned and took son, and walked in the house. The entire time I sat there and said that, he sat there like this... :mad: :scratchhead::scratchhead: :confused:
He was dumbfounded. It felt excellent, I assume he eventually picked his jaw up off the floor and left, I don't know - as I went inside.
:rofl: I feel good!
I think what was so great was - he's never seen me stand up for myself. He can't sit there and say, Why did you do that in front of our son - b/c clearly, I asked son to go inside - and he told him to stay right there. Not my fault. Granted, didn't like doing that in front of son - but, I explained and talked to him later. Of course he didn't blink an eye - he knows. He's known for sometime, you can tell.
I get a call from EX on Friday - asking if he can use my truck to help a "friend" move. I said "No, I'm sorry - I have to go, I can't really talk about it right now anymore". Click.
I get a text a few hours later. Can you please let me use it, I am really in a bind. I promised my friend a truck, and now I can't find one to borrow. I said "No, you aren't insured on my plan anymore and it likely won't start anyway, it's been sitting all winter".
So, he returns son home the next day... and that is when the sh?t hit the fan. He gets out of his car, and starts telling me that I need to stop messing around, am I going to let him use it or not? I said I am confident I already answered your question, twice. He said I want a good reason why. I said, you don't need a reason other than the one I already told you. I don't answer to you anymore, remember? He started cursing and getting nasty. I turned to my son, and asked him to go in the house - and ex said "No, son.. you stay right here - its fine". So, ex turned to me again and said "I want a good reason why, you are being such a bitc..."
In a very calm, reassuring and no nasty way - I simply looked at him, and I said Ok (name)... You want your reason why? I am not your wife anymore, you left me for another woman and filed for divorce. I went on... You never not one time, this entire winter - knowing you left son and I with this big place, and no job or money, asked if we were OK, or needed help in anyway. You abandoned your responsibilities. Now that you've made another promise to someone you can't keep - it is not MY responsibility to make sure you can uphold that promise. Now, I ask that you please leave, and don't ask to borrow my truck or any other thing again. Have a nice day.
I turned and took son, and walked in the house. The entire time I sat there and said that, he sat there like this... :mad: :scratchhead::scratchhead: :confused:
He was dumbfounded. It felt excellent, I assume he eventually picked his jaw up off the floor and left, I don't know - as I went inside.
:rofl: I feel good!
I think what was so great was - he's never seen me stand up for myself. He can't sit there and say, Why did you do that in front of our son - b/c clearly, I asked son to go inside - and he told him to stay right there. Not my fault. Granted, didn't like doing that in front of son - but, I explained and talked to him later. Of course he didn't blink an eye - he knows. He's known for sometime, you can tell.
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