Suspect an affair but, not sure what to do?

Hi - I suspect my wife is having an affair or, doing something inappropriate. We have had problems over our 20 years but, have seemed to work through them. She had an affair that lasted about 10 months several years ago but, I have not suspected anything since then. Here is the short version: She works 2nd shift and her shift ends at 11:00 pm. She frequently goes out for a few drinks after work and sometimes doesnt get home until the early morning hours or next day. She tells me she is with one of her girlfriends but, I have no way of knowing. I have stressed that if she is drinking to stay with her girl friend and not to get behind the wheel. I dont see her text messages or ask to see them. I do pay the bills and noticed a phone number that gets alot of activity on her mobile phone. The number belongs to a male friend of hers. She never mentions speaking to this person to me but, I can see they spend alot of time on the phone. Many short calls right arou nd the time she gets off work. I called a private investigator this morning just to get some information on how the process works and the cost involved. PI's are very costly and I hate to spend that kind of money.

My question to you all: Is it worth spending $1,000+ to get tangible evidence? We are not wealthy but, I could swing the cost if necessary. I have not confronted my wife with any of my suspicions...The mature thing to do would be to ask her point blank I suppose but, I dont believe she would be honest.

Thanks for any help or suggestions.

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