Seeking advice and or input on my current situation: I have been married to my childhood crush for 20 months and he has a 7 year old daughter from a previous relationship. He was never married to the child's mother as this was only a casual relationship between the two but she wanted more so she trapped him by stopping her birth control thinking it would convince him to marry her because she was having his child, however that was not the case. He stayed with her during her pregnancy and a year after the child was born and then he could not take it anymore and he left her for good. He was dating someone for 3 years before me and the child's mother treated his then girlfriend very nastily and held hatred towards her as she does the same for me now. Their breakup was not because of another woman, it was simply that she is a bipolar nasty person and he could no longer take being with her. He stayed as long as he could for the sake of their child. Anyway, I ha ve only met the baby mother one time and I tried to be an adult and be civil with her and talk with her to try and develop some type of relationship with her to make things easier for all parties involved. Well, she was very nasty with me and told me in no uncertain terms that I am not prohibited to take her child anywhere or do anything with her while she is at our house and when she is with us it is daddy/daughter time and she is not there for my enjoyment and furthermore called me "the flavor of the month" but ended it with stating that I treat her child well. She has no interaction with me whatsoever and it makes things very difficult. Her child acts the same way as her mother. The next issue is that the child has diagnosed ADHD and is prescribed medication twice daily but the issue is that my husband and her mother only give her the medication while she is in school (2nd grade) so she can focus and be somewhat calm during school hours. She was expelled from Pre K school and has been in trouble the past year in school and even told one of her classmates that she wanted to kill the teacher because she didn't get candy on Halloween like the other kids in class because she was misbehaving. She hits other kids in class and even spit on another child. I brought her to a kids birthday party at my neighbors house a month ago and my husband and I and the neighbor saw her hit another kid at the party. She went in time out but has a real attitude problem. She acts just like her mother and is rotten. No one wants to deal with her because she is so mean and rude. She told me and my husband a few weeks ago she would hurt us and then she laughed about what she said and then said she was just joking. She has no respect for anyone and is very spoiled. I got a new kitten a month ago and last week when she spent the night on her overnight stay with dad, she was playing with the cat and she proceeded to kick my cat and hit him in the face with one of his toys . I repremanded her several times and she doesn't listen and its like it goes in one ear and out the other. The cat scratched her eye because she went back for more and I told her this is what happens when you do bad things and mistreat animals. She cried to her dad and then my husband and I got into a really huge blowout over this and didn't speak for two days. I feel she needs her medication as prescribed but my husband said he will only give it to her while in school and that he wants his daughter to have a normal life like any another child. I understand that but her behavior is unacceptable. I treat her very well but she goes home to mom and tells her things about me which in turn my husband gets a text stating these lies and has to defend me which should not be. I will not bathe her or do anything for her for the simple fact I don't trust the child of what she might make up and tell her mother. The child is putting a wedge between my husband and I and is manipulating o ur marriage. I won't let this child defeat me but something needs to be done. I don't like going home when she is there on her one night with dad because I can't stand being around when she is there. I feel she is only going to get worse. I appreciate you reading this post and I would love to hear your thoughts and or suggestions. I don't want to end up getting a divorce over her but I won't allow her to defeat me in my own home.
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