Ok, I feel weird about posting this but I really need some advice or a different perspective on this issue. My husband and I have been married for 13 years. We got married young and actually have had a really good marriage. Up until recently we have always had a great sex life. We are compatible in bed and both have very high sex drives. Other than the months right after I had a baby (we have 3), I have stayed in good shape. I eat healthy and work out several days a week including strength training; so my body has held up quite well. My husband also eats relatively healthy and works out several times a week. So this is why I don't understand how he has this problem.
My husband is about to turn 35 years old and all of a sudden has problems keeping an erection. It started a few weeks ago. We were on vacation and had been drinking throughout the day. I surprised him with lingerie and candles. He was unable to get a full erection. This was a HUGE blow to my ego as it has never happened before. I took it very personally. He swears it was not me and that it was due to drinking through the day. But since then it has happened again. He had an erection and as we were about to have sex he lost it. Also, I asked him for a quickie once and he finished literally in a minute. This has never happened before and he seemed embarrassed. He has went from trying to have sex with me multiple times a day, to hardly at all.
How can I not take this personally? I have read that it is highly unlikely for a man to have physical ED problem at such a young age. He swears it is not me and that he doesn't know why this is happening. I have considered that he may be cheating or wants to cheat. The actual cheating part is highly unlikely as I always know where he is and our phones and Facebook accounts are open to each other. I have never suspected him of cheating before and he has never given me a reason to. He is very loving towards me and treats me extremely well. However, I am not stupid and I know things like this happen in good marriages.
I guess I just need some advice from people that have been there or other men that have been through something similar. I am feeling very low and confused. I do not know how to react. He currently has plans to make an appointment with his DR to discuss the problem. But as I mentioned before it seems unlikely for a young and healthy male to have a physical problem with ED. Any advice is very much appreciated!!
My husband is about to turn 35 years old and all of a sudden has problems keeping an erection. It started a few weeks ago. We were on vacation and had been drinking throughout the day. I surprised him with lingerie and candles. He was unable to get a full erection. This was a HUGE blow to my ego as it has never happened before. I took it very personally. He swears it was not me and that it was due to drinking through the day. But since then it has happened again. He had an erection and as we were about to have sex he lost it. Also, I asked him for a quickie once and he finished literally in a minute. This has never happened before and he seemed embarrassed. He has went from trying to have sex with me multiple times a day, to hardly at all.
How can I not take this personally? I have read that it is highly unlikely for a man to have physical ED problem at such a young age. He swears it is not me and that he doesn't know why this is happening. I have considered that he may be cheating or wants to cheat. The actual cheating part is highly unlikely as I always know where he is and our phones and Facebook accounts are open to each other. I have never suspected him of cheating before and he has never given me a reason to. He is very loving towards me and treats me extremely well. However, I am not stupid and I know things like this happen in good marriages.
I guess I just need some advice from people that have been there or other men that have been through something similar. I am feeling very low and confused. I do not know how to react. He currently has plans to make an appointment with his DR to discuss the problem. But as I mentioned before it seems unlikely for a young and healthy male to have a physical problem with ED. Any advice is very much appreciated!!
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