Me and my girlfriend recently broke up after being together for 11 months. I've been thinking about everything and I've started thinking maybe I treated her badly. Well that makes it sound really bad, I mean I didn't cheat on her or beat her or anything, but I still feel this way.
I'll give a couple of examples:
1) We were both at (different) friends houses, and we were going to meet up at hers once we'd left. She left her friends house and got back home, and told me this. However I was still with my friend and we were busy, so I didn't walk over to her's for maybe an hour and a half or 2 hours.
Now at the time I didn't think it was a big deal, I thought she'd be fine with me coming whenever and there was no real time I had to be there. But when I got there she was really upset, crying and telling me she'd left her friend's house especially early so she could see me, and obviously I didn't care about her.
2) We were talking over text, and part of the conversation went like this:
Her: Can I ask you a question?
Me: Sure
Her: Why are you with me?
So I thought about what to say, and of course the sensible thing to do would be to reply with something like "because you're beautiful and amazing etc etc.", but for some reason I said something ****ing stupid like "because you're cool".
In both these cases I haven't intentionally tried to hurt or upset her, but I might have done just that through being careless and not thinking about my actions.
In general I think I was always quite nice and caring, however I feel like the little moments where I wouldn't properly consider her feelings eventually were a big part of why we broke up, and I feel terrible for that.
Does it sound like I treated her badly/was I a bad boyfriend? :(
I'll give a couple of examples:
1) We were both at (different) friends houses, and we were going to meet up at hers once we'd left. She left her friends house and got back home, and told me this. However I was still with my friend and we were busy, so I didn't walk over to her's for maybe an hour and a half or 2 hours.
Now at the time I didn't think it was a big deal, I thought she'd be fine with me coming whenever and there was no real time I had to be there. But when I got there she was really upset, crying and telling me she'd left her friend's house especially early so she could see me, and obviously I didn't care about her.
2) We were talking over text, and part of the conversation went like this:
Her: Can I ask you a question?
Me: Sure
Her: Why are you with me?
So I thought about what to say, and of course the sensible thing to do would be to reply with something like "because you're beautiful and amazing etc etc.", but for some reason I said something ****ing stupid like "because you're cool".
In both these cases I haven't intentionally tried to hurt or upset her, but I might have done just that through being careless and not thinking about my actions.
In general I think I was always quite nice and caring, however I feel like the little moments where I wouldn't properly consider her feelings eventually were a big part of why we broke up, and I feel terrible for that.
Does it sound like I treated her badly/was I a bad boyfriend? :(
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