The 180 is serving me well and producing the results in rebuilding myself and detaching. If anyone is following the thread "other woman comes to home to confront…" that's me. I wanted to reach out to others who did or are doing the 180 and see if you got response from the ws that they want to end marriage because they are not getting their way… did they accuse you of cheating? What were their responses to your "new attitude" ?
As for my situation, as others have stated in that tread-I don't think he ever really broke it off with ow. Even now after a month after that debacle he shows no remorse and continues to blameshift. He was issued a company cell phone about a week after the confrontation and I assume he is using that to maintain contact as his attitude towards the affair hasn't changed. The thing is now he acknowledges and apologized but thinks he has done his part and that's that…Obviously I don't agree and have not changed stance so refuse to be a wife to him.
He is more defiant than ever. On the last visit home, (which I did not sanction but cannot control as he is co owner ) he didn't come home the first day and I know he didn't pay for a hotel. I asked why didn't he just stay where he was, he denies being in town. ( he doesn't remember I have the find iphone app on his phone). Anyway I haven't unpaused the marriage since my suspicions of the affair began right at 3 months ago today.
So I have been pretty much ignoring his calls and text only discussing finances and maybe responding as I see fit which may be every so many days and are not addressing the marriage. I have taken on new activities and become very secretive about my whereabouts as I am just focusing on me and whats next. He Is now accusing me of seeing someone and that what I am doing isn't right. GTFOH. More manipulation.
I haven't dignified his concerns with a response. His latest text to me is that he has done everything he could and he is not going to chase me, beg, or play games that HE is done doesn't want to hear from me again and to "have a good life" To all of that I say "MAKE MY F-ING DAY". I just find it all of that ironic given that HE is the one who cheated…
The strategy was to keep the marriage paused and continuing having him pay into major household bills since he is making more money now and hasn't pulled the plug ( at least until I get a larger nest egg). I am forcing him out of limbo to either D or does what is needed for R. This is still inforce as he always makes threats and doesn't follow through.
He is off the later part of this week if he doesn't come home, I'll know he might be getting close to the end, If he does, more of the same is to be expected. As long as he keep paying, its not over until I'm good and ready financially as I am pretty much done emotionally. I guess I am trying to use a user- Crazy I know… Your thoughts?
As for my situation, as others have stated in that tread-I don't think he ever really broke it off with ow. Even now after a month after that debacle he shows no remorse and continues to blameshift. He was issued a company cell phone about a week after the confrontation and I assume he is using that to maintain contact as his attitude towards the affair hasn't changed. The thing is now he acknowledges and apologized but thinks he has done his part and that's that…Obviously I don't agree and have not changed stance so refuse to be a wife to him.
He is more defiant than ever. On the last visit home, (which I did not sanction but cannot control as he is co owner ) he didn't come home the first day and I know he didn't pay for a hotel. I asked why didn't he just stay where he was, he denies being in town. ( he doesn't remember I have the find iphone app on his phone). Anyway I haven't unpaused the marriage since my suspicions of the affair began right at 3 months ago today.
So I have been pretty much ignoring his calls and text only discussing finances and maybe responding as I see fit which may be every so many days and are not addressing the marriage. I have taken on new activities and become very secretive about my whereabouts as I am just focusing on me and whats next. He Is now accusing me of seeing someone and that what I am doing isn't right. GTFOH. More manipulation.
I haven't dignified his concerns with a response. His latest text to me is that he has done everything he could and he is not going to chase me, beg, or play games that HE is done doesn't want to hear from me again and to "have a good life" To all of that I say "MAKE MY F-ING DAY". I just find it all of that ironic given that HE is the one who cheated…
The strategy was to keep the marriage paused and continuing having him pay into major household bills since he is making more money now and hasn't pulled the plug ( at least until I get a larger nest egg). I am forcing him out of limbo to either D or does what is needed for R. This is still inforce as he always makes threats and doesn't follow through.
He is off the later part of this week if he doesn't come home, I'll know he might be getting close to the end, If he does, more of the same is to be expected. As long as he keep paying, its not over until I'm good and ready financially as I am pretty much done emotionally. I guess I am trying to use a user- Crazy I know… Your thoughts?
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