Rant about assumptions - Women & money

I don't know how many times I've seen it here. No matter what problem a man may be having with his wife, at least one idiot (or several) will immediately call out "cut off her money, don't finance her (insert problem here)!" Three things irritate me about this: 1. The inherent assumption that all women are financially dependent on their husbands. I make more money than my husband, thank you very much, and I always have. Why is it always assumed that the men make all of the money? 2. Even if I was a SAHM, that would be a mutual decision between my husband and myself for the good of our children. It's not that these women are lazy and get to have a "cushy" life courtesy of their husband. Sure, some women do have it very good. But most SAHM's work hard and have SACRIFICED a lot, including their own careers, their sanity, time in the adult world, etc to make this choice. And in most cases, this choice was made with the husband's mutual consent and even encouragement. Wives don't somehow manipulate, frighten or force their husbands to financially support them. It's a decision made jointly and involves a lot of trust on the part of the wife. It's not easy being the one shouldering the financial burden for the family. But it's also not easy sacrificing your own career and being financially dependent on another person. This is a family decision made for the good of the family, not a wife sneaking in to her husband's wallet to steal his money when he's not loo king. 3. It bugs the heck out of me that people find it perfectly fine to encourage men to control and manipulate their wives using money. If she's not doing X, Y or Z, cut off her money! Nobody ever tells wives to cut off sex as a punishment for some wrong by the husband. That would be horrible and breaking the marriage vows! How is cutting off money any different? The money earned by both parties in a marriage belongs to both parties. At least, that's pretty much the law in most states. The parties should both contribute equally to the family with whatever is agreed upon, whether it's money, housework, child-rearing, etc. If there is a marriage problem, you need to address THAT problem. Whether it's laziness, going out too much, not participating sexually, whatever the problem may be. Address that problem, don't just manipulate your spouse using money. Wives are not *****s, who you can choose to "pay" or "not pay" depending on your level of satisfaction with the services rendered . Okay, rant over. I think. :rolleyes:

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