| I would like any good notations on any inconsistencies you may see in her story please as well as thoughts on how to handle my situation. Been married almost 20 years, I feel I can't and don't want to live without her I love her that much, As far as I know there has been no previous cheating by either of us. The other day I was laying on the floor using her phone to google some Jeep parts, she was walking on my back and talking to one of our daughters (2 girls 14 and 19) a text popped up that said "I love you to, just not like you do" she didn't notice at first so I quickly tried to reply but caught in mid action as she snatched the phone out of my hands, I said who was that, she said "I don't know wrong number I guess" I said well hand it here we can ask who it is, but by the time I finished speaking she deleted all traces of the text and and cleared all hopes of recovering the sender number. Of course I was very suspicious and she repeatedly denied it, later that evening I got a confession from her, she said it was an ex in fact her first love, from a town two hours away which we both grew up in, I knew the fella as well, we all grew up in the same town. She admitted to bumping in to him at a softball game that her and our two daughters attended several months ago, she introduced him to our daughters and they have verified this. According to her a month later he text her and ask things like how she been and how are marriage was and such, after a few weeks of texting they decided to meet, at his mothers house because he is also married with kids and his mom wasn't going to be home, my wife knows his family because they went out many years ago for a long time. According to her, she lied to me and got dressed for work, kissed me goodnight as she works night shift, and left, but actually went to meet him, she says she parked out front of the house and texted him and he told her to just come in, he was setting on one end of the sofa and she sat on the other, they talked for about twenty minutes and leaned into each other and started kissing, then fondling, then they stood up and stripped and he nailed her on the floor for ten minutes, so she says. She told me he did no foreplay or anything just a quicky more or less and she swears she didn't come, although he did inside her, but tubes tied, and she is going to get checked for STDs although she says I have had sex with her about four times since, anyways, she says shortly after she left and drove the car to a park parking and cried from guilt, and slept there. I caught his text a week or two after the sex, the one mentioned above stating "I love you to, just not like you do" so I asked what she had texted before this response and she said "Thanks you, that made me feel special, I love you" she swears her I love you was meaningless but if so why does he find the need to add "But not like y ou" she said all previous texting had not included anything about love and that she don't know why she said it, but that the sex was meaningless, yet she texted him this weeks later, to me it sounds as though she was trying to make a relationship, got denied, and is trying to get me back. She said they didnt exchange numbers that she dont know how he got hers, yet in that town only her family knows her number and he dont even know where we live two hours away. As far as me calling him, she said she deleted the evidence and don't know any other way to get the number, and all of her family denys having it. So I cant contact him, although I am from that same town and if I venture down I may be able to find him. There might be more but for now this is the jist, I love her to death and don't want to lose her, but I have a few hangups... One sex for sex would have been not as bad, but the 'I love you' thing is killing me, she says it wasnt meant like that, but I dont buy as his message seems that he needed to clarify to her that he didnt love her in the same way, and also I dont understand how he interpreted her having a certain volume of love for him from her one text only, I think she must have said it more times or was trying to create a relationship and all it was for him was booty. She says she is sorry and cries bad asking for forgiveness although she cant expect me to and says the experience showed her just how much she really loves me, and I honestly have always loved her deeply and want to make this work, not sure if I can I am devastated. I need to know if she loves him, and if she had intentions of starting a relationship or not. Any help anything would be great, I can't think right and am sure Ill have more to add but I am stuck on this part right now, I cant move forward untill I know what the I love you stuff means | |||
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