| I'm a third-year student on a four-year course at uni, and as I like to get involved in loads of things I both play sports (hockey and so on) at a high level and do more "geeky" things like the chess society and so on. As such, I have friends from both areas. I'm naturally a very outgoing, extroverted girl and like to make friends with people quickly. I also prefer playing sports to "intellectual" hobbies, as I'm doing quite a hard degree, though I think the latter are still important. And I like to take care of my appearance and am quite girly and feminine sometimes, which my geeky friends make fun of just as much as they make fun of the fact I do "masculine" things like lift weights. I've noticed I find it much, much harder to get on with my "geeky" friends than the more "popular" people who play sports and do more stuff around uni and seem to know almost everyone. I act the same way around everyone, and I used to be a really big geek who played video games and all that, but it's not even that we don't have the same hobbies as their personalities. Despite the stereotypes, I've found my sporty friends to be more outgoing and friendly, and the "geeks" to be cliquey, hung up on things that don't matter and actually less accepting of people who don't conform. I have to spend much more time with my geeky friends just to be treated as "one of them," and they're really rude about it when I can't as well. Without sounding mean, they tend to have bad social skills too and it's harder to become proper friends with them. I don't know why the geeks often act like such an exclusive club. As last year is my final year, would it be really shallow of me to spend more time around the people I like spending time around with (who I guess are the more "popular" people) rather than the geeks? I find them nicer and I fit in with them better, and I'm not even sure most of my "geeky" friends will stay in touch with me after uni, as they're so cliquey. | |||
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