Not again!

Hi everyone, I have been lurking for a few months and I wish I had found this site last June. I really need some advice right now. Here are my stats: 42yr with H(common law) also 42, 9.5 years 1 child, 5yrs. I am going to try to give you the short version. In February of 2012 I started to suspect H was having an affair, he was displaying all the classic signs: weight loss, loss of interest in me, buying new clothes, more interest in his looks, and unaccounted time away from home. Every time I asked if he was having an A of course his answer was always no. One night in March he was gone when I woke up in the middle of the night and his excuse was he was seeing a patient ( he is a doc) but, he used to always wake me up before to tell me and he would always answer the phone, when he finally answered the phone he was very angry that I had been calling him. In April I began smelling perfume on his clothes and it wasn't mine. I confronted him again, and again I was the crazy one. I sure wish I had discovered TAM, I would have gathered all my info first. In June I received a call at work telling me that H had been spotted in a coffee shop hugging and kissing a woman. I came home and confronted him and he admitted to the affair but was not very forthcoming with details. I ordered copies of the phone bill and saw all the calls and texts, must have been several hundreds of them. I told H to pack his things and get out and he refused, stating that he wanted to work things out and immediately agreed to MC. That went ok, H does not open up, never has. Fast forward to now, I have never really been totally convinced H truly wanted to R so I have been snooping and found that has he has been looking on dating sites and porn sites. He guards his phone so I can't get to it yet. He has changed the password to the cell phone account so I can't access the account anymore. I am not good at keeping this type of information to myself, I just want to confront with him what I found but I know now from reading the posts on this site that I should wait until I have solid proof. I am very tempted to just spill what I know because I will not R with him a second time. The only reason I did the first time is for my daughter. She is my world and I don't want her to hurt. Thanks for reading.

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