Lying: How to I communicate that it's abuse to the lying partner?

This is a new understanding for me, that lying is abuse. I would like some education about how so, in a way that I can understand deeply and be able to communicate it to my lying partner. I get angry and she claims that my anger is emotional abuse and I'm the one with the issue of abuse. My response is that lying is abuse and abuse breeds abuse. I've moved out of this relationship right now, so I'm safe, but I know a talk will come sometime. It's been a week of no contact. She hasn't made a real pressure attempt to reach out.....a letter that reflects the same words she has always said, contrite and promise to change, but it's never happened and I receive these sentiments all the time so it carries no weight. I'm trying to unattach, I know in my heart once someone lies (and cheats), there is not love and can never be respect. I'm suffering and hurting but I know I have to go through this and let go. I'd like to be prepared and confident a nd secure when I talk, probably our last. I wish it were different but I have to accept reality. Thank you.

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