| We have been married for 28 years with no problems and over the last year my husband started going on saturday to a wine shop for wine tasting. He asked me to go, i went once or twice but usually just stayed home since I am not a big wine drinker. Then this last summer he would go bike riding with them. One saturday night they went to the beach, one of the people has a motor home. He texted me and said he was spending the night. I was not happy but he promised it would not happen again. The next saturday the same thing happened and then the next week again. But he never even told me he was staying until midnight and since he had promised it would never happen again I was worried. Then he said he would not go to beach again, just bike riding. Well, a couple days later he went bike riding with the main guy of this group. He promised he would be home by 1:00. It got to be after 2 and he never called and I kept calling and got no answer. I was so upse t I didn't know whether to be mad or worried. Finally around 7 I got a text that was all garbled. It didn't make sense. Finally he came home and was all bruised on his face and had a big gash on his leg. He said his "friend" and him went bar hopping and then his "friend" dropped him off at his car and he passed out for hours in the car,He said the last thing he rememered is trying to get the key in the ignition, thank God he didn't. When he didn't come home I didn't know anything about the guy he was with so I looked on the phone bill to see if I could find his numner in case my husband never came home. When looking there were a ton and I mean a ton of text messages to a certain number. When I asjed him who it was he said it was a girl in the wine group but there was nothing going on. He kept messaging even though he new I was upset. Then one saturday we were out of town and this girl textd him, I was upset that she would do it while he shoudl be with his family. She made a derogatory comment about me who she hs never met on a text to him so I texted her and asked what the problem is. She got really upset and texted some horrinble things to me and texted my husband that I am a fxxing *****, thai i need a short leash and should be in the baclk of the bus. The part that upset me was that his comment was that there is world war 3 going on between his wife and friend and he doesn't want to lose either. I do know nothing has been going on between them for sure but it is just upsetting and he did text her to wish her happy birthday. He can't understand why I am so upset. It is hurtful to me that he isn't upset at her for saying things like that about me. We have never had fights before and now it is all the time over these party people. Yesterday he went to the wine tassting and I went. The girl was there and when we left he hugged some of the women (older married women ) goodbye and then he hugged her. I am so upset with him and he doesn't have a c lue why. He said he hugged others too but I said those others didn't say mean things about me. He made a sarcastic comment that next time he will have to check with me on who to hug,hejust doesn't get it. What should I do or say to make him understand, | |||
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