Hello,
I have been with my wife for 10 years, but tonight we have finally separated.
It's been a rocky relationship. We had good days and bad days. Our main problem was so much arguing and disagreeing on things. I felt that due to this, I held back from being affectionate, which caused her to resent me. I think we've both made mistakes. I felt like I was always the one talking about how to make things better but I felt like I could never get through to her. A few years back, we moved far away from our families to a lovely house and I thought it was a new start. Neither of us had any proper friends and we both seemed happy with that. My wife had to change jobs and her new job led to socialising with her workmates. I didn't mind this particularly, but I found out that one was sending her really inappropriate text messages. They may have had some sort of affair, but I was never able to prove it.
This happened about one month ago. Since then, things came to a head and she finally told me that she didn't have any faith in us working out and didn't want to try. She said she still loves me and feels awful. I tried my best to persuade her to see this as a wake up call and to actually make steps to improve things, but to no avail.
Tonight, I packed my bags and am now sitting writing this in a hotel. I need to start thinking about finding somewhere to rent temporarily until our money situation is sorted out and I have enough to think about buying somewhere.
I'm 30 years old in a month's time and I'm not normally one to cry. However, today I admit I cried a lot. I feel so lost. Like I said, I have no friends and my family live quite far away.
I just thought that my marriage would last forever. I have so many memories of our time together and I feel so sad that it's come to an end.
Does anyone have any words of encouragement please?
I have been with my wife for 10 years, but tonight we have finally separated.
It's been a rocky relationship. We had good days and bad days. Our main problem was so much arguing and disagreeing on things. I felt that due to this, I held back from being affectionate, which caused her to resent me. I think we've both made mistakes. I felt like I was always the one talking about how to make things better but I felt like I could never get through to her. A few years back, we moved far away from our families to a lovely house and I thought it was a new start. Neither of us had any proper friends and we both seemed happy with that. My wife had to change jobs and her new job led to socialising with her workmates. I didn't mind this particularly, but I found out that one was sending her really inappropriate text messages. They may have had some sort of affair, but I was never able to prove it.
This happened about one month ago. Since then, things came to a head and she finally told me that she didn't have any faith in us working out and didn't want to try. She said she still loves me and feels awful. I tried my best to persuade her to see this as a wake up call and to actually make steps to improve things, but to no avail.
Tonight, I packed my bags and am now sitting writing this in a hotel. I need to start thinking about finding somewhere to rent temporarily until our money situation is sorted out and I have enough to think about buying somewhere.
I'm 30 years old in a month's time and I'm not normally one to cry. However, today I admit I cried a lot. I feel so lost. Like I said, I have no friends and my family live quite far away.
I just thought that my marriage would last forever. I have so many memories of our time together and I feel so sad that it's come to an end.
Does anyone have any words of encouragement please?
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