Hi,
I love my wife and we are great; we rally have big blow out fights and we get a long great for the most part.
I'm realizing two things that I / we don't do well in our relationship:
1. When we have a fight I tend to take more time to get over it (a day or two), and it's hard for me to be all affectionate again when I'm still annoyed/angry. She always says to me after we have a fight, great now you are going to be weird for the next two days.
She's right, I don't want to be like this but I just can't get over a fight and be lovey dovey again with her after what was said...it's hard for me.
Does anyone else have this issue? How do you recover and not let this drag out for a couple of days?
2. I notice we don't bicker well, it could be something trivial/stupid that I want her to do; like shut the door to the laundry room in the winter because all the cold air gets into the house of our already high heating bills.
So I'll say can you shut the door because all the cold air is getting in and she will be I'm just in here for a couple seconds, she says that but its actually minutes. So instead of just doing it and making me happy she has to defend herself and we start bickering and I get annoyed because I don't get why she just can't do it and shut the door behind her.
So then I get weird with her again and I have a hard time just getting back to neutral again.
Has anyone else gone through this when bickering turns into both parties just defending their point of view and getting into another stupid fight?
I see how my parents bicker and they have a great back and forth and they both defend themselves too but it seems more light hearted than when we do it.
Thank you!
I love my wife and we are great; we rally have big blow out fights and we get a long great for the most part.
I'm realizing two things that I / we don't do well in our relationship:
1. When we have a fight I tend to take more time to get over it (a day or two), and it's hard for me to be all affectionate again when I'm still annoyed/angry. She always says to me after we have a fight, great now you are going to be weird for the next two days.
She's right, I don't want to be like this but I just can't get over a fight and be lovey dovey again with her after what was said...it's hard for me.
Does anyone else have this issue? How do you recover and not let this drag out for a couple of days?
2. I notice we don't bicker well, it could be something trivial/stupid that I want her to do; like shut the door to the laundry room in the winter because all the cold air gets into the house of our already high heating bills.
So I'll say can you shut the door because all the cold air is getting in and she will be I'm just in here for a couple seconds, she says that but its actually minutes. So instead of just doing it and making me happy she has to defend herself and we start bickering and I get annoyed because I don't get why she just can't do it and shut the door behind her.
So then I get weird with her again and I have a hard time just getting back to neutral again.
Has anyone else gone through this when bickering turns into both parties just defending their point of view and getting into another stupid fight?
I see how my parents bicker and they have a great back and forth and they both defend themselves too but it seems more light hearted than when we do it.
Thank you!
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