I have been with my husband for 8 years, married for 7. We have two beautiful children together and I have one from a previous relationship. I love my husband, with my everything, but I have made the tough decision to leave him. I'm moving in with my mom and I haven't told him yet, though my move date is in less than 5 days. I feel so guilty with him not knowing and it's hard to walk around this weekend like normal. There are a lot of reasons why I am at this point. I have been so broken and miserable for so long. My husband generally doesn't help pay bills, and when I ask for help, there's been times he'll throw money at me, most always give me less than I need, or make me feel guilty for asking. I'm in debt to so many family members who stopped helping me because they didn't want to help him. He almost died last year because of alcohol abuse. He was in ICU for a week, doctors warned him not to drink. He started drinking again less than two we eks after being released. I spent countless nights nursing him back to health, waking up n the middle of the night to take him to the bathroom, giving him medicine. Treated him like a baby. I cried and begged him to stop drinking, he would not. He lies to me about everything, especially money. He doesn't help with our kids. My daughter's school is up the street from our house but I've had to leave work to pick her up from school only to bring her home. I have been used for years, and yet, I still love him so much. I feel an emptiness because I don't feel like he loves me the same. I know there is a bright side at the end of this journey but I am spending more time worried about how he will take care of himself when I leave. He's used to me doing ABSOLUTELY everything for him. I know I'm enabling him and that's what I keep telling myself. But I can't shake this knot in my stomach, the urge to cry for hours on end, or the temptation to just cancel my move and conti nue to be in my broken marriage. I can't tell you the last time my husband kissed me... Any advice would be great. I've been searching online all day for just something that will give me clarity. I know I have to go through the process and that it will hurt. I guess I just want to know I'm doing the right thing and advice from others who may know what I feel.....
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