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I am looking for your opinion on how you would react if your partner told you "when you do 'a', it makes me feel 'b'". One example would be "when you don't keep your promises, it makes me feel like you don't care about me". My husband's response to a statement like that is usually that it is not his intention and he doesn't want me to feel this way. BUT he continues to not keep his promises.
It really baffles me. If he doesn't want me to feel this way, why would he keep doing it? Am I being totally unreasonable here? Is it unreasonable of me to expect him to work on keeping his promises to make me feel cared for.
Another example would be "when you don't compliment me, it makes me feel like you don't care about me". He again says it is not his intention, but he still doesn't complement me.
I am looking for your opinion on how you would react if your partner told you "when you do 'a', it makes me feel 'b'". One example would be "when you don't keep your promises, it makes me feel like you don't care about me". My husband's response to a statement like that is usually that it is not his intention and he doesn't want me to feel this way. BUT he continues to not keep his promises.
It really baffles me. If he doesn't want me to feel this way, why would he keep doing it? Am I being totally unreasonable here? Is it unreasonable of me to expect him to work on keeping his promises to make me feel cared for.
Another example would be "when you don't compliment me, it makes me feel like you don't care about me". He again says it is not his intention, but he still doesn't complement me.
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