Short Question:
How do I approach a situation where I have known a girl for a while and we get on really well, and a I really fancy her (I mean I love her) - she is perfect for me in every way. How do I know if she likes me and how do I ask her out without freaking her out, or her rejecting me (I'm scared of rejection).
Quick Facts:
Gender: Male
Age: 24
Short Term Relationships: 2
Long Term Relationships: 0
How Long have you known Girl: Nearly 1 Year
How did you meet: Summer Job
Accommodation: Living with Parents - saving for Mortgage
Back Story: (for those who are interested: very long - sorry)
Hi All, I'm Male, 24, finished post grad at Uni and starting and have recently started my first post grad job.
I met this girl at during a summer job, both of us had finished university and we're using it as a stepping stone and to extra money. I fancied her from day 1 and was like WOW, she is amazing, so cultured, a country girl, like myself and she went to the same Uni as me - but we had never seen each other at Uni. I never thought I had a chance with her because she is out of my league - too pretty.
We got on really well at work but I am not the flirtatious type unless the girl clearly enjoys it. This girl is quite conservative, as am I. On my last day - I bought her a 4 CD collection of Disney songs because every Saturday morning we would put the Disney radio station on and sing along, she was going travelling so i thought this would be a nice touch. I never thought anything could happen until I left to start a new job and she was the only person who wished me good luck and asked how my first day went. Sure we chatted a few times on instant messengers before hand but when she did this I was head over heels for her and though that I might actually have a chance.
She was saving to go travelling with her best friend. Over the next few months we talked via instant messenger weekly, it turned into daily. Then she went away travelling for 6 months and I thought that would be the end of it. But my friend said we should go travelling and join her travelling for 2 weeks. My friend had already asked her but I thought it might be rude, so I asked her and she said it would be great. I was very nervous about this as I had never been travelling/backpacking before and I would have to keep my game up 24 hours a day. Before I met this girl all I wanted was job, car, house, mortgage, but travelling was the best 2-3 weeks of my life. I didn't get to spend much time with her away as we were so busy with activities and lots of other people would have made it awkward, so I just tried to enjoy it and show her I was fun. I'm not sure if the travelling helped or hindered my chances - as sometimes I think I may have come across as a bit impatient and obnoxious because I wanted to see and do everything all the time and she just wanted to chill a bit more - but I got the vibes and chilled out more later on the trip.
She is about to come back from travelling and I still speak to her daily via IM. She lives quite close and I want to act now because she is perfect, sometimes we end up talking for hours and then realise we should probably go to bed, ha ha, she is so cultured, so fun, likes the same things as me: I don't want to let this girl slip away....or I'll regret it forever.
But she will be busy looking for work, sorting out things at home (she has a few family issues atm). I don't know how to approach the situation and ask her out.
She perhaps has to come to my house at some point to collect some clothes, shoes etc because her luggage was getting too heavy and I was going home and had loads of space so I said I can take it home for you, so I thought I could turn this situation into a fun idea/date like situation where we could cook.
I've dropped a few hints to show that I like her and jested that she should come to mine for some noodle cooking (we went to a class in Asia and it was fun) or she could show me what she learnt on another class when I wasn't there.
Anyway - if you read all of that wow - thanks, I am a romantic at heart and I over analyse everything - hence why I am so picky and I don't don't want to settle when there are girls like this to be found - I want everything to be perfect. Any suggestions on how I approach this situation and how I can start spending more time with the]is girl would be appreciated - I don't particularly want to say do you want be my girlfriend, ha ha
Many Thanks
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