My husband & I have been together 8 years. We have small children & for the most part we are deeply in love. My husband comes from a broken home mixed with domestic violence, abandonment, death & drugs. He is a loving man & he's overcome so much! My need for advice stems from the fact that I'm not sure I can handle the man he's become. We were married a year when he started showing his true colors. He's possesive & controlling. He wants me to be happy but I'm not allowed to have friends, or go anywhere alone. He constantly asks if I'm cheating on him because I won't have sex with him everyday. He thinks if I go to the grocery with our small children I'm cheating. I'm never alone, I'm a stay at home mom. I'm not cheating or even giving him a reason to think I am! I've tried to discuss with him, he won't communicate at all. When I ask him about his day he barely answers, if I talk about the kids' & I's day he ignores me. When I question why he won't ack me he says I'm nagging him. Any conversation he says I'm nagging him or *****ing. I feel so alone! My kids are scared to death of his temper, he's not normally physical. He's never hit me. He tells me constantly that I'm fat, or puts me down to our children which our oldest has begun mirroring which breaks my heart. He says he's teasing but when I mention that it's hurtful I hear how *****y & nagging I am. I pick my battles, I let a lot roll off my back but it's come to the point now that he's threatening to leave me & harm himself, all because I tried to have an honest conversation. I love him, we love our children, are we doing more harm together than we would apart? We can't afford a psychiatrist & he won't go if we could. Please, I really need help. For my children's sake & my sanity! I expect & greatly appreciate constructive criticism, he & I are in this together & I want to improve anything I may be doing so we can fix us!
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