My sister has it all, the great job, the money, the relationship, the home, friends, looks, holidays etc. - but has developed what I think is a really harsh mentality that if a person doesn't have all these things, or whatever they want in life that it is their own fault, they should accept that it's a dog-eat-dog world, if they want it they should simply get it.
She doesn't seem to have any empathy, understanding or compassion at all.
I don't want to portray myself as a victim, but I've developed a severe anxiety disorder which has lead me to isolate myself from the few friends I had, that means birthdays and new years I'm alone, I haven't been able to work in public, I have little money in the bank, no social life, and been suffering with this for 5 years.
I'm writing because there was a discussion where my sister expressed a gripe about mortgages and she then turned to me asking in a horrible way: "what problems do you have?"
I just can't believe how your sister can be so oblivious? Does she think I'm having the time of my life? My life has been going really wrong for years and am only getting help now because I've only realised that mental health issues are real and legitimate even if you can't see them from the outside. I would have sought help a lot sooner if someone had approached me with some compassion instead of telling me it's all my fault. When you have a disorder you are not in full control, you are under the anxiety's control. I've been referred to a therapist now and am just waiting for an appointment, so I'm really happy now that I can start to make some steps towards recovery.
Do you think I am being too sensitive about this? Is my sister right? Is it wrong to consider her particularly cold-hearted? Or maybe she can't empathise because she has it all. How can family be so oblivious to the fact that you are suffering?
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