There is a great deal of dogmatic nonsense that comes out as feminism. However, the major problem is often not enough feminism.
There is a lot to be said for the pendulum swinging too far. An example was discussed previously that while cheating is clearly wrong, denying your partner any sexual release in any form for a year or two as you do not feel like making an effort it OK - a kick-back from when the idea you could rape your wife was considered absurd.
However, I have seen Denmark (more progressive) and the UK and I can report big differences. Feminism has gone further in Denmark and it is great. There will now follow huge generalisations: I have undertaken manual work with mixed groups in both countries. In Denmark, the women are aware they are weaker. They do not try to make up for this by deciding they are organisers, they just do what they can and leave the heavy stuff to the strongest (who happen to be male). I have not seen the situation of taking over as organiser, standing back and complaining how women would be far better. This is because they have much higher self-assurance.
In bed, the idea that you can just lie there and leave it all up to the man is less present in Denmark. That is because a woman would not expect the man to just lie there. Equality is having an effect.
I have been in relationships where Danish women have come back later and described how the problems in the relationship had been their fault. Even to the extent where I have argued that I was more to blame that they say. That acceptance of responsibility takes confidence and self-assurance. It is not all bad.
There is a lot to be said for the pendulum swinging too far. An example was discussed previously that while cheating is clearly wrong, denying your partner any sexual release in any form for a year or two as you do not feel like making an effort it OK - a kick-back from when the idea you could rape your wife was considered absurd.
However, I have seen Denmark (more progressive) and the UK and I can report big differences. Feminism has gone further in Denmark and it is great. There will now follow huge generalisations: I have undertaken manual work with mixed groups in both countries. In Denmark, the women are aware they are weaker. They do not try to make up for this by deciding they are organisers, they just do what they can and leave the heavy stuff to the strongest (who happen to be male). I have not seen the situation of taking over as organiser, standing back and complaining how women would be far better. This is because they have much higher self-assurance.
In bed, the idea that you can just lie there and leave it all up to the man is less present in Denmark. That is because a woman would not expect the man to just lie there. Equality is having an effect.
I have been in relationships where Danish women have come back later and described how the problems in the relationship had been their fault. Even to the extent where I have argued that I was more to blame that they say. That acceptance of responsibility takes confidence and self-assurance. It is not all bad.
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