I know this topic has been covered a million times but I feel like I need to figure something out because living this way is effecting every aspect of my life.
I have been married to my wife for 10 years, when we met she wanted sex more than me, now I feel deprived and starving. I love my wife more than anything and am beginning to be very mad at myself for letting this effect me so much.
It's gotten to the point that it almost ruined our marriage, we actually have a pending divorce but are trying to reconcile. I asked for a divorce because it has been almost constant suffering always wanting a good sex life and knowing that I may never have that again with her. I have 3 kids, 2-9yrs old and pretty much hate myself for hurting them because I can not handle this.
I do not want to be with anyone else, I want to be with my wife but I start feeling awful after about 4-5 days of not having sex. I let the resentment build up for years and want to figure out how to take complete responsibility for this without being resentful or distancing myself from wife. I can not seem to be able to handle these feelings that build up. I feel completely trapped as I'm not willing to go outside of my marriage to satisfy these desires and I don't want to hurt my family, but I can't seem to be myself, be healthy and happy while feeling the unmet desire.
Without cheating or leaving her, my only option is to handle these feelings and live with them. This is much easier said than done, I get to the point that I have trouble focusing on anything else, get very impatient with my kids and have no motivation to get my work done or follow up with customers.
I feel like I have racked my brain and tried everything only to end up at the exact same place. I have discussed this openly with her and we go to counseling, she does not want to feel like she must have sex every week and I do not want to make her feel pressured.
I am 34 she is 32, we are both very attractive. I take care of myself, work out and am athletic. I work for myself and have been able to provide a descent living with my construction business. I also try to help out with the house and kids whenever possible. I also give her plenty of compliments and hugs and kisses every day.
I try to make as much time as possible for her but we still just don't have that missing link? The few times that we were having frequent sex everything was great and I didn't even think about it, even if there were a couple extended periods that it was lacking. But when it is slow all the time I can't keep the desire from coming up, like a neglected hunger. Is there a way to escape,from this feeling?
I feel like I've searched and tried everything but am still trapped, everything else in my life is great and I love it but I hate myself for not being able to handle this problem for me and my family.
I have been married to my wife for 10 years, when we met she wanted sex more than me, now I feel deprived and starving. I love my wife more than anything and am beginning to be very mad at myself for letting this effect me so much.
It's gotten to the point that it almost ruined our marriage, we actually have a pending divorce but are trying to reconcile. I asked for a divorce because it has been almost constant suffering always wanting a good sex life and knowing that I may never have that again with her. I have 3 kids, 2-9yrs old and pretty much hate myself for hurting them because I can not handle this.
I do not want to be with anyone else, I want to be with my wife but I start feeling awful after about 4-5 days of not having sex. I let the resentment build up for years and want to figure out how to take complete responsibility for this without being resentful or distancing myself from wife. I can not seem to be able to handle these feelings that build up. I feel completely trapped as I'm not willing to go outside of my marriage to satisfy these desires and I don't want to hurt my family, but I can't seem to be myself, be healthy and happy while feeling the unmet desire.
Without cheating or leaving her, my only option is to handle these feelings and live with them. This is much easier said than done, I get to the point that I have trouble focusing on anything else, get very impatient with my kids and have no motivation to get my work done or follow up with customers.
I feel like I have racked my brain and tried everything only to end up at the exact same place. I have discussed this openly with her and we go to counseling, she does not want to feel like she must have sex every week and I do not want to make her feel pressured.
I am 34 she is 32, we are both very attractive. I take care of myself, work out and am athletic. I work for myself and have been able to provide a descent living with my construction business. I also try to help out with the house and kids whenever possible. I also give her plenty of compliments and hugs and kisses every day.
I try to make as much time as possible for her but we still just don't have that missing link? The few times that we were having frequent sex everything was great and I didn't even think about it, even if there were a couple extended periods that it was lacking. But when it is slow all the time I can't keep the desire from coming up, like a neglected hunger. Is there a way to escape,from this feeling?
I feel like I've searched and tried everything but am still trapped, everything else in my life is great and I love it but I hate myself for not being able to handle this problem for me and my family.
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