A week ago we were out with a group of about 25 friends, mostly guys I work with and their wives.
We went to a brewery that had an outdoor patio dining area.
One of the guys I work with is about 25 good looking muscular type and known for drinking to much at parties and doing stupid things.
The beer was flowing, I was not drinking so I could drive several people home, my wife was just a little typsy, maybe had three beers. The co-worker was pretty drunk
I am 48 my wife is 45, I should note that this guy frequently makes comments and remarks about "hot" my wife is to the point I have told him knock it off a couple of times. I have told my wife this more than once and told her to be careful around him.
We end up the last people in the place, just all of our group and are about to go home, I'm talking to people about driving them home when I hear whooping and laughter cheering etc.
I look over and the guy has picked my wife up and was holding her facing him, her legs around his waist, her hands around his neck and his hands holding her just under her butt. about 30 feet away from me.
He is making forceful thrusting motions with his hips pounding his crotch into hers,simulating stand up sex, her butt was literally bouncing up and down!!
This went on for several seconds I was shocked, but more shocked when he let her down she was laughing hysterically, her face was a little red, she seemed a little embarrassed but she was cracking up,
I later heard that she said to a friend of hers who was close by "that was kinda fun" while she was laughing..
Then another friend crabs her cellphone and says "do it again I want a picture" so my wife turns back to him jumps up and they do it again..
I am upset and very quiet as we take people home.
We get home and she says "what's your problem"??
I am very angry and tell her there is no way she could think that was ok to do.
She says she was walking towards the exit told him we were going home and he said " no we are gonna hit the bars now"
and picked her up, carried her back into the patio area and began the hip thrusting, she didn't ask him to do it it was just a joke and she did nothing wrong. she got super defensive and started screaming at me . we had a huge fight.
She says she was the victim in all this and it was all his fault, and keeps saying she did nothing wrong.
I told her that I believed that she did not know he was going to do that but if she felt she was a "victim" and was not ok with him simulating sex and thrusting into her than she should not have "gone along" with it, that all she had to do was unwrap her legs and get down, push him away and act offended ,which she should have been,if she were the victim she should not have been laughing about it or said " that was kinda fun" and she would not have done it again voluntarily.
She keeps saying that she did nothing wrong, she is the victim, and it was just a joke and there is no reason I should have been upset about it. She says I am totally over reacting and she is very angry that I won't agree with her.
The co worker called me on Monday and genuinely apologized, he felt terrible and asked my forgiveness, he told me I should have punched him in the face.
Anyway I am just looking for some help and advice, this has become a major issue in our marriage and my wife will not give an inch, she is saying I need to apologize to her for being upset about it and being a jerk.
She will not see how inappropriate that it was, and does not care about how I felt watching her do that.
My wife and I work together and share a computer so it may be hard for me to answer questions promptly. but I will be checking responses frequently
Any help is appreciated,
We went to a brewery that had an outdoor patio dining area.
One of the guys I work with is about 25 good looking muscular type and known for drinking to much at parties and doing stupid things.
The beer was flowing, I was not drinking so I could drive several people home, my wife was just a little typsy, maybe had three beers. The co-worker was pretty drunk
I am 48 my wife is 45, I should note that this guy frequently makes comments and remarks about "hot" my wife is to the point I have told him knock it off a couple of times. I have told my wife this more than once and told her to be careful around him.
We end up the last people in the place, just all of our group and are about to go home, I'm talking to people about driving them home when I hear whooping and laughter cheering etc.
I look over and the guy has picked my wife up and was holding her facing him, her legs around his waist, her hands around his neck and his hands holding her just under her butt. about 30 feet away from me.
He is making forceful thrusting motions with his hips pounding his crotch into hers,simulating stand up sex, her butt was literally bouncing up and down!!
This went on for several seconds I was shocked, but more shocked when he let her down she was laughing hysterically, her face was a little red, she seemed a little embarrassed but she was cracking up,
I later heard that she said to a friend of hers who was close by "that was kinda fun" while she was laughing..
Then another friend crabs her cellphone and says "do it again I want a picture" so my wife turns back to him jumps up and they do it again..
I am upset and very quiet as we take people home.
We get home and she says "what's your problem"??
I am very angry and tell her there is no way she could think that was ok to do.
She says she was walking towards the exit told him we were going home and he said " no we are gonna hit the bars now"
and picked her up, carried her back into the patio area and began the hip thrusting, she didn't ask him to do it it was just a joke and she did nothing wrong. she got super defensive and started screaming at me . we had a huge fight.
She says she was the victim in all this and it was all his fault, and keeps saying she did nothing wrong.
I told her that I believed that she did not know he was going to do that but if she felt she was a "victim" and was not ok with him simulating sex and thrusting into her than she should not have "gone along" with it, that all she had to do was unwrap her legs and get down, push him away and act offended ,which she should have been,if she were the victim she should not have been laughing about it or said " that was kinda fun" and she would not have done it again voluntarily.
She keeps saying that she did nothing wrong, she is the victim, and it was just a joke and there is no reason I should have been upset about it. She says I am totally over reacting and she is very angry that I won't agree with her.
The co worker called me on Monday and genuinely apologized, he felt terrible and asked my forgiveness, he told me I should have punched him in the face.
Anyway I am just looking for some help and advice, this has become a major issue in our marriage and my wife will not give an inch, she is saying I need to apologize to her for being upset about it and being a jerk.
She will not see how inappropriate that it was, and does not care about how I felt watching her do that.
My wife and I work together and share a computer so it may be hard for me to answer questions promptly. but I will be checking responses frequently
Any help is appreciated,
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