I've seen a similar thread on here about pretty much the same thing, however my situation is complex and any advice/thoughts would be great.
I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years, we have been engaged for 2 months. We own a house together, which we have had for 14 months and a dog.
I haven't been completely happy for a while, but put it down to men being men, however after seeing his parents argue and hate each other for the last 4 years it has dawned on me that that will be us in 5 years time.
We had an argument on Saturday and i told him that we are now different people, i.e a lot of the stuff he does annoys me and he doesn't appreciate that it annoys me, instead turns it into me bitching all the time. I declined a place at uni twice 3 years ago on the basis that i didn't want to leave him, but now in an okay job but want to go to uni finally. This would mean selling the house we own and me being a student again! He is not academic at all, and has no career goals any more.
I feel as if i love him, but i feel held back from the rest of my life by him and the house. I feel like i need to be selfish and now move on, but he tells me regularly i am his everything (He doesn't have a large group of friends, interests or an interesting job)
We essentially broke up on Saturday, but i agreed to work things out over the next 4 weeks. After talking to friends etc i have sort of naturally come to the decision that i want to end our relationship etc.
Am i being selfish, or at the age of 22yrs am i just being sensible by not accepting just being 'okay'?
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