The title of "Can a mixed couple survive" I am referencing myself as a divorced man with two children, and my girlfriend has no children coming from a single background.
We've been dating almost 19 months now. I'm very upset at a conversation we just had so I need to vent. Like I said we've been dating 19 months, living together the last 2 months. I have my children, Son (11) Daughter (8) three days a week they live with us.
The constant argument seems to center around the money I spend on my children, or rather how I spend it. I have my child support which comes out of my check; then after that my ex wife and I pretty much split costs of things.
My girlfriend was raised where her dad just paid child support and not much else, and my dad did the same.
I just did back to school shopping, and for some of the clothes I got my kids name brand clothes (albeit at a great cost), and my son is into these special Nike socks that I've bought for him as a treat.
Anyway, my girlfriend and I have talked about marriage, but now she said she is scared because of losing control of her money if we get married, she mentioned my child support and the things I spend on top of that. I can't afford to spoil my kids but I get them extra things once in awhile. I also try to mix in non brand name things too.
My GF constant makes small remarks that we won't be able to afford a house in the future if I keep doing things like this.
We have a lease until next May. I love my GF and I want my future with her, but I also don't want to feel like I have to account for how I spend my money on my children. Maybe she is jealous that she can't have these things, I don't know.
Is this always going to be an issue since she doesn't have children of her own? She now says she wants to wait until the kids are much older to get married, which I'm fine with.
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We've been dating almost 19 months now. I'm very upset at a conversation we just had so I need to vent. Like I said we've been dating 19 months, living together the last 2 months. I have my children, Son (11) Daughter (8) three days a week they live with us.
The constant argument seems to center around the money I spend on my children, or rather how I spend it. I have my child support which comes out of my check; then after that my ex wife and I pretty much split costs of things.
My girlfriend was raised where her dad just paid child support and not much else, and my dad did the same.
I just did back to school shopping, and for some of the clothes I got my kids name brand clothes (albeit at a great cost), and my son is into these special Nike socks that I've bought for him as a treat.
Anyway, my girlfriend and I have talked about marriage, but now she said she is scared because of losing control of her money if we get married, she mentioned my child support and the things I spend on top of that. I can't afford to spoil my kids but I get them extra things once in awhile. I also try to mix in non brand name things too.
My GF constant makes small remarks that we won't be able to afford a house in the future if I keep doing things like this.
We have a lease until next May. I love my GF and I want my future with her, but I also don't want to feel like I have to account for how I spend my money on my children. Maybe she is jealous that she can't have these things, I don't know.
Is this always going to be an issue since she doesn't have children of her own? She now says she wants to wait until the kids are much older to get married, which I'm fine with.
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