My wife and I were together for 7+ years and married for 3 yrs. I found out May 25th that my wife apparently started having a affair back in Dec due to me not making her feel like she was my everything or even enough. I won't lie from Oct to Jan our marraige was horrible, and painful to be in.
She left me back in Jan. and during that time period was diagnosed bipolar, and suffering from bad anxiety. We reconcilled back in Apr. in which she admitted they had slept together in Feb. but that was it and that they were just really good friends, that had decided that a relationship wouldn't work out between them. It was really unsettling and bothered me greatly because in Feb she had no feelings for me and said she wasn't in love with me, then in March she realized that she loved me and couldn't go on without me in her life. So when I moved back in I was very suspicious and was constantly looking for verification for her bringing me back into her life. If it was for financial support or actually working on our marriage. I never really found anything to make me feel better about the situation but found out that the affair with him was from Dec. and that she was still very much in infatuated with him and the idea of being with him, even while having me around. She consist ently tried to delete conversations with him, and deny ever seeing him until she was caught which this went on from mid Feb- Dday May 25th when i finally left, 4 days before my Bday.
My current problem is that I feel pitty for her because she is infatuated with this guy who openly told her he doesn't want a relationship, and she continues to throw herself at him. She has convinced herself that they are best friends, and that she is very important to him. In which I pointed out to her that all the conversations I read they were more her venting and talking about her day and he was just responding to it. Not him reaching out to her, so she is stuck chasing someone and missing someone who isn't even persuing her, to the point that she destroyed the R attempt and now I'm disgusted with her because there were periods were she slept with me one day and then slept with him the next day (supposedly never happened during R) but who knows.
What sucks is during my time of feeling sorry for her I talked to her on the phone more this week since we no longer live together, which kind of pulled me back in closer, but this weekend she is bombing the house for roaches (its a duplex) and decided to go stay at his MOMS house (where he lives) this weekend, which she insists that they are out of town. This is causing me to have bad anxiety which i began having due to me thinking of them hooking up, or her texting him sitting next to me. She CLAIMS she wants to make better decisions she just doesn't know how to do it right now, plus she is in the middle of a manaic episode which she says she doen't think she can eliminate her relationship with him, his mom or her favorite Starbucks (where he works)
I'm trying 180 it is just hard to completely cut someone off especially one who is constantly claiming to be sorry, and that she Loves me. But she won't change right now claiming the maniac episode for her current actions.
She left me back in Jan. and during that time period was diagnosed bipolar, and suffering from bad anxiety. We reconcilled back in Apr. in which she admitted they had slept together in Feb. but that was it and that they were just really good friends, that had decided that a relationship wouldn't work out between them. It was really unsettling and bothered me greatly because in Feb she had no feelings for me and said she wasn't in love with me, then in March she realized that she loved me and couldn't go on without me in her life. So when I moved back in I was very suspicious and was constantly looking for verification for her bringing me back into her life. If it was for financial support or actually working on our marriage. I never really found anything to make me feel better about the situation but found out that the affair with him was from Dec. and that she was still very much in infatuated with him and the idea of being with him, even while having me around. She consist ently tried to delete conversations with him, and deny ever seeing him until she was caught which this went on from mid Feb- Dday May 25th when i finally left, 4 days before my Bday.
My current problem is that I feel pitty for her because she is infatuated with this guy who openly told her he doesn't want a relationship, and she continues to throw herself at him. She has convinced herself that they are best friends, and that she is very important to him. In which I pointed out to her that all the conversations I read they were more her venting and talking about her day and he was just responding to it. Not him reaching out to her, so she is stuck chasing someone and missing someone who isn't even persuing her, to the point that she destroyed the R attempt and now I'm disgusted with her because there were periods were she slept with me one day and then slept with him the next day (supposedly never happened during R) but who knows.
What sucks is during my time of feeling sorry for her I talked to her on the phone more this week since we no longer live together, which kind of pulled me back in closer, but this weekend she is bombing the house for roaches (its a duplex) and decided to go stay at his MOMS house (where he lives) this weekend, which she insists that they are out of town. This is causing me to have bad anxiety which i began having due to me thinking of them hooking up, or her texting him sitting next to me. She CLAIMS she wants to make better decisions she just doesn't know how to do it right now, plus she is in the middle of a manaic episode which she says she doen't think she can eliminate her relationship with him, his mom or her favorite Starbucks (where he works)
I'm trying 180 it is just hard to completely cut someone off especially one who is constantly claiming to be sorry, and that she Loves me. But she won't change right now claiming the maniac episode for her current actions.
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