About 17 months ago my ex out of the blue one day left the state with my 3 children without telling me.
There were no warning signs, we were married 18 years at that time and I was still very much in love with her.
For the first 2 weeks I had no idea where she had gone with the children, she would not answer my calls or call me back.
I was devastated and could not sleep fearing the worst, as any concerned parent would be.
Finally she contacted me and let me know what state they had moved to permanently. I attempted to reason with her over the phone but that did not seem to work nor would she tell me why she left.
She did not allow me to speak to my kids for over a month and once I did speak to them it was less than a minute each on speaker phone.
2 months after she left she said she would "allow" me access to my children if I were to come visit them. I drove to them and stayed for a week in a city near by (she did not want me to come to the town or even county they were staying at), the kids were so happy and relieved that I came to visit, during the visit she was all over me wanting to have sex daily. On the last night I was visiting I pleaded with her to return with the kids to our home state but she refused. She explained that she loved it here and had no desire in ever returning, she told me that if I were to close down my business and move to her new home state then she would continue to "allow" me access to the kids as long as I did not become involved with another woman.
I drove home filled with anguish leaving my kids behind, all the kids had asked to go home with me but she threatened that if I were to try and take them that she would call the police on me.
In the following 4 months we had many arguments over the phone and I became suspicious that she might be involved with another man. I hired a private investigator and within a week it appeared that she was seeing someone on daily basis but the investigator could not verify if there was an intimate relationship or just friendship.
During the 4 months following her leaving I had visited her and the kids 3 more times, each time driving more than 16 hours and staying a week at resorts to entertain the children who were living with her and her mother in a 800 square foot trailer with 5 dogs.
One day she called me and asked me to come get our 14 year old daughter because she can no longer deal with her.
When I arrived to pick up my daughter she asked me for a divorce and told me that if I were not going to move to live in a city near by she was going to seek sole custody of the children and only allow me very limited access to the kids.
My 2 younger children cried, begged and pleaded for me to take them but again she threatened me with the police, and since we were in a southern state with racist issues and since I was an outsider I felt it best that I not start something that could work against me in the long run.
Upon my return to my home state I contacted one of the best father's rights attorneys in the United States and setup a meeting.
I was told she was breaking the law in our state by removing the children without my consent and that I had every right to get a judge to order her returning the 2 remaining kids.
I spent the next 2 weeks trying to reason with her to no avail.
I was running out of time as I did not want jurisdiction to change to the state where she was living, after 6 months of her leaving I would have had to go to court in her state and that would have not worked well at all in the children's favor.
I hired the attorney and within 3 days we were in front a judge who issued an order of protection for the children against her and an order to my wife to surrender the children, ordering any and all law enforcement agencies to comply.
I drove again and after 3 days of dealing with the idiots in her county sheriff's department and getting the State Attorney General involved they finally made her give me the kids back and I drove them home.
The kids were so happy to leave and be home.
She showed up to the first hearing, the judge questioned her for over 2 hours to try and figure out why she moved like this, he asked her if I was abusive in any way, did I not provide for her and the children and all her answers were in my favor. The judge granted me custody of the children, refused her request for alimony or support.
Outside the court house I told her I would move out and she could live with the children here at home if she wished, I just wanted to be able to see my children all the time.
My intent was never to deprive her of the kids but I was not going to be deprived of them either.
Since then she never came back to court, the divorce is final, she got no alimony and I have been granted sole custody of the children.
She never calls the kids, my youngest is 5 years old and he misses her at times. I have given her full access to the kids but she never comes to visit, the last time she saw them was 8 months ago the day after the first hearing.
I am still financially supporting her as she has not been able to keep a job and have been evicted several times. Her car broke down and I bought her another car to help her out. I still love her and think of her every day. Everytime I look at one of our kids I think of her.
She finally told me a few weeks ago why she left, she said that she suspected that my business partner who happens to be a woman was my other woman.
I told her it was not true at all, my partner have been a great friend for years and during this whole mess, she was there for me and my kids and helped me out to no end.
I still want her back, I realize I am foolish for saying this but I still love her and cannot seem to be able to get over her.
She was a great mother to my kids till the day she moved them out of our beautiful home into that god forsaken town 1100 miles away.
I am here to vent folks, I have no relatives in the state and find it difficult to talk about this with my friends.
There were no warning signs, we were married 18 years at that time and I was still very much in love with her.
For the first 2 weeks I had no idea where she had gone with the children, she would not answer my calls or call me back.
I was devastated and could not sleep fearing the worst, as any concerned parent would be.
Finally she contacted me and let me know what state they had moved to permanently. I attempted to reason with her over the phone but that did not seem to work nor would she tell me why she left.
She did not allow me to speak to my kids for over a month and once I did speak to them it was less than a minute each on speaker phone.
2 months after she left she said she would "allow" me access to my children if I were to come visit them. I drove to them and stayed for a week in a city near by (she did not want me to come to the town or even county they were staying at), the kids were so happy and relieved that I came to visit, during the visit she was all over me wanting to have sex daily. On the last night I was visiting I pleaded with her to return with the kids to our home state but she refused. She explained that she loved it here and had no desire in ever returning, she told me that if I were to close down my business and move to her new home state then she would continue to "allow" me access to the kids as long as I did not become involved with another woman.
I drove home filled with anguish leaving my kids behind, all the kids had asked to go home with me but she threatened that if I were to try and take them that she would call the police on me.
In the following 4 months we had many arguments over the phone and I became suspicious that she might be involved with another man. I hired a private investigator and within a week it appeared that she was seeing someone on daily basis but the investigator could not verify if there was an intimate relationship or just friendship.
During the 4 months following her leaving I had visited her and the kids 3 more times, each time driving more than 16 hours and staying a week at resorts to entertain the children who were living with her and her mother in a 800 square foot trailer with 5 dogs.
One day she called me and asked me to come get our 14 year old daughter because she can no longer deal with her.
When I arrived to pick up my daughter she asked me for a divorce and told me that if I were not going to move to live in a city near by she was going to seek sole custody of the children and only allow me very limited access to the kids.
My 2 younger children cried, begged and pleaded for me to take them but again she threatened me with the police, and since we were in a southern state with racist issues and since I was an outsider I felt it best that I not start something that could work against me in the long run.
Upon my return to my home state I contacted one of the best father's rights attorneys in the United States and setup a meeting.
I was told she was breaking the law in our state by removing the children without my consent and that I had every right to get a judge to order her returning the 2 remaining kids.
I spent the next 2 weeks trying to reason with her to no avail.
I was running out of time as I did not want jurisdiction to change to the state where she was living, after 6 months of her leaving I would have had to go to court in her state and that would have not worked well at all in the children's favor.
I hired the attorney and within 3 days we were in front a judge who issued an order of protection for the children against her and an order to my wife to surrender the children, ordering any and all law enforcement agencies to comply.
I drove again and after 3 days of dealing with the idiots in her county sheriff's department and getting the State Attorney General involved they finally made her give me the kids back and I drove them home.
The kids were so happy to leave and be home.
She showed up to the first hearing, the judge questioned her for over 2 hours to try and figure out why she moved like this, he asked her if I was abusive in any way, did I not provide for her and the children and all her answers were in my favor. The judge granted me custody of the children, refused her request for alimony or support.
Outside the court house I told her I would move out and she could live with the children here at home if she wished, I just wanted to be able to see my children all the time.
My intent was never to deprive her of the kids but I was not going to be deprived of them either.
Since then she never came back to court, the divorce is final, she got no alimony and I have been granted sole custody of the children.
She never calls the kids, my youngest is 5 years old and he misses her at times. I have given her full access to the kids but she never comes to visit, the last time she saw them was 8 months ago the day after the first hearing.
I am still financially supporting her as she has not been able to keep a job and have been evicted several times. Her car broke down and I bought her another car to help her out. I still love her and think of her every day. Everytime I look at one of our kids I think of her.
She finally told me a few weeks ago why she left, she said that she suspected that my business partner who happens to be a woman was my other woman.
I told her it was not true at all, my partner have been a great friend for years and during this whole mess, she was there for me and my kids and helped me out to no end.
I still want her back, I realize I am foolish for saying this but I still love her and cannot seem to be able to get over her.
She was a great mother to my kids till the day she moved them out of our beautiful home into that god forsaken town 1100 miles away.
I am here to vent folks, I have no relatives in the state and find it difficult to talk about this with my friends.
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