Hey everyone,
I'm very new to this but i'm out of idea's and I really need some help. My wife and I have been together for 7 years been married for 4 of it. It's been a hard 4 years. I love my wife but it seems that the moment we were married, everything changed. I would love to go on a "rant" about this but I'm not sure this is the place to do it. If there is a place or if someone thinks additional knowledge will help please point me in the right direction. So here is my question. Am I expecting to much out of my wife?
I want for her to be excited to see me when I come home, as my job has me away for a few months at a time, I want for, when I get a chance to call her, to be a priority and not have to wait 10 minutes for 1 or 2 word responses on what she's doing or how her day is going. I want her to be more mature and responsible and quit staying at the bars until 2 in the morning and driving drunk and wrecking her car. She's done it twice in a year so far.
These things don't seems like so much to me. But when I try to discuss this with her, i'm the bad guy. I'm the one who doesn't want her to have friends, or have a life. And so I'm guilted into apologizing to her, paying thousands for dollars to fix her car.
I want her to be a loving, caring wife. And I really understand that we need to talk about things to make them better, but if anyone can tell me a good way to make a conversation where you tell you wife that saying that your husband's penis is small is not fun or funny no matter when or how it's said and that it's a hurtful and ignorant remark without getting upset about it, i would love to know.
Sorry I'm starting on the rant thing. Am I asking to much? Am I being selfish? Am I being unfair?
I'm very new to this but i'm out of idea's and I really need some help. My wife and I have been together for 7 years been married for 4 of it. It's been a hard 4 years. I love my wife but it seems that the moment we were married, everything changed. I would love to go on a "rant" about this but I'm not sure this is the place to do it. If there is a place or if someone thinks additional knowledge will help please point me in the right direction. So here is my question. Am I expecting to much out of my wife?
I want for her to be excited to see me when I come home, as my job has me away for a few months at a time, I want for, when I get a chance to call her, to be a priority and not have to wait 10 minutes for 1 or 2 word responses on what she's doing or how her day is going. I want her to be more mature and responsible and quit staying at the bars until 2 in the morning and driving drunk and wrecking her car. She's done it twice in a year so far.
These things don't seems like so much to me. But when I try to discuss this with her, i'm the bad guy. I'm the one who doesn't want her to have friends, or have a life. And so I'm guilted into apologizing to her, paying thousands for dollars to fix her car.
I want her to be a loving, caring wife. And I really understand that we need to talk about things to make them better, but if anyone can tell me a good way to make a conversation where you tell you wife that saying that your husband's penis is small is not fun or funny no matter when or how it's said and that it's a hurtful and ignorant remark without getting upset about it, i would love to know.
Sorry I'm starting on the rant thing. Am I asking to much? Am I being selfish? Am I being unfair?
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