Hi I'm new to the forums. I'm here because I'm in a down swing, when I think about divorce. Tomorrow I could be back in an upswing thinking about how I want to stay married. I've been on this cycle for about 1.5 years.
We've been married 8 years. Two kids 7 and 5. My wife would say she's been unhappy since within the first year we got married. I guess I just get into the routine of life. Then life changes like moving to another state, kids, job changes, etc. I adjust to the new routine and back to the cycle.
I do most things around the house. All the grocery shopping and cooking. Most of the laundry. All the dishes and trash. I take the kids to and from school. If a kid ha to stay home I am the one automatically taking off work.
Im a great dad. I thought I was a caring husband. Every few months for the past however many years she tells me how unhappy she is. It used to make me so sad an speechless.
No one would suspect anything is wrong. We look so awesome to everyone. I tried counseling alone before our first kid was born. Didn't go so well. It set goals that I never seemed to meet. Tried reading books.
I get easily distracted or forget things. No matter what I try to do that is new it never becomes habit.
Haven't had sex in almost 3 years.
She had given up on me at some point. After feeling rejected for too long and over worked and under appreciated I gave up too.
We coexist as roommates in the same house. I feel like she rather be doing anything other than spending time with me.
I feel like she is broken. I broke her and can not fix her. I feel like I'm not marriage material maybe. I don't know.
I'm tired of disappointing her but not motivated enough to do anything about it other than leave.
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We've been married 8 years. Two kids 7 and 5. My wife would say she's been unhappy since within the first year we got married. I guess I just get into the routine of life. Then life changes like moving to another state, kids, job changes, etc. I adjust to the new routine and back to the cycle.
I do most things around the house. All the grocery shopping and cooking. Most of the laundry. All the dishes and trash. I take the kids to and from school. If a kid ha to stay home I am the one automatically taking off work.
Im a great dad. I thought I was a caring husband. Every few months for the past however many years she tells me how unhappy she is. It used to make me so sad an speechless.
No one would suspect anything is wrong. We look so awesome to everyone. I tried counseling alone before our first kid was born. Didn't go so well. It set goals that I never seemed to meet. Tried reading books.
I get easily distracted or forget things. No matter what I try to do that is new it never becomes habit.
Haven't had sex in almost 3 years.
She had given up on me at some point. After feeling rejected for too long and over worked and under appreciated I gave up too.
We coexist as roommates in the same house. I feel like she rather be doing anything other than spending time with me.
I feel like she is broken. I broke her and can not fix her. I feel like I'm not marriage material maybe. I don't know.
I'm tired of disappointing her but not motivated enough to do anything about it other than leave.
:(
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