Hello All:
I have encountered an issue in my marriage and would like advice.
We are both religious (I am personally very close to God) and prior to our committment, we made a vowe/promise to only have opposite sex friends for work, education and reglious purposes - and of course, avoiding one on one interactions outside these establishments and exchanging phone numbers.
A problem occured yesterday when we were both laying in bed together, ready to watch a movie.
She received a strange call from a man I have never seen or heard of before and she picked up the phone and began speaking to him, choosing to speak to him rather than spend the little time we have together before we get very busy with work/school.
She begins speaking with him, laughing, smiling ...in her native language and of course, I can hear the man speaking in a 1-900 voice tone that us men only use on women we want/like (I use it on my wife when I am at work).
This call goes on for 10-15 minutes, so I become very iritated and write on the laptop's notepad:
"What are you doing? I thought we made a promise? Why are you talking to another guy while you're in bed with your man?"
She LAUGHS as it's a joke, continues to talk to this man and I continue getting more and more frustrated. It has been 20 minutes and I get so iritated, I leave the room and she continues for 10min+ and doesn't even care to follow me out.
She tells me "it's just a friend" and brushes it off as it's nothing and does not tell me barely anything about him except for his location which is the exact location where she had mentioned at the beginning of her relationship with me that she "almost had a relationship with a guy from France". The entire scenario was shady as hell.
I feel betrayed and disrespected ...I also feel this will lead to more and my trust for her has diminished since she broke our agreement.
I do not want to play detective in the relationship - will I have to now? It feels as if this will lead to infidelity down the road.
I have encountered an issue in my marriage and would like advice.
We are both religious (I am personally very close to God) and prior to our committment, we made a vowe/promise to only have opposite sex friends for work, education and reglious purposes - and of course, avoiding one on one interactions outside these establishments and exchanging phone numbers.
A problem occured yesterday when we were both laying in bed together, ready to watch a movie.
She received a strange call from a man I have never seen or heard of before and she picked up the phone and began speaking to him, choosing to speak to him rather than spend the little time we have together before we get very busy with work/school.
She begins speaking with him, laughing, smiling ...in her native language and of course, I can hear the man speaking in a 1-900 voice tone that us men only use on women we want/like (I use it on my wife when I am at work).
This call goes on for 10-15 minutes, so I become very iritated and write on the laptop's notepad:
"What are you doing? I thought we made a promise? Why are you talking to another guy while you're in bed with your man?"
She LAUGHS as it's a joke, continues to talk to this man and I continue getting more and more frustrated. It has been 20 minutes and I get so iritated, I leave the room and she continues for 10min+ and doesn't even care to follow me out.
She tells me "it's just a friend" and brushes it off as it's nothing and does not tell me barely anything about him except for his location which is the exact location where she had mentioned at the beginning of her relationship with me that she "almost had a relationship with a guy from France". The entire scenario was shady as hell.
I feel betrayed and disrespected ...I also feel this will lead to more and my trust for her has diminished since she broke our agreement.
I do not want to play detective in the relationship - will I have to now? It feels as if this will lead to infidelity down the road.
Put the internet to work for you.
No comments:
Post a Comment