We have debt. But both times my husband has spoken with his attorney his attorney has told my husband he can't talk to me AT ALL anymore. My husband and I are going to spend any money we have for debt on the stinking lawyers when we could be talking about certain things ourselves. We have a dog and a cat that need to go to the vet and I need to be able to tell my husband this. To have to tell him this through his attorney is RIDICULOUS to me. But my husband will likely see it as a total breach of respect if I ever email him again because he asked adamantly for NO COMMUNICATION. His lawyer is creating a wall and making enemies out of us and making us feel like we can't trust each other. My lawyer is awesome and hasn't even responded to some emotional stuff I wrote once because he knows our financial situation and I have been clear from the start that I do not want to be paying him for anything but the most necessary procedures. We can't afford it.
Can I email my husband without being disrespectful when I am trying to help both of us in the long run? Is there any reasoning with him? I can't stand being his enemy when he is the one who wanted this and I did nothing wrong (okay, I know it takes two...but I never cheated...but I am a pleaser and submissive and then can be passive aggressive at times...so to all of my friends and family I am amazing and kind and sweet and awesome but my husband thinks I am the root of his problems when really I think he just keeps trading one thing for the next seeking out his own happiness). But anyway, he wanted a separation because he said that I wasn't happy and then he fell in love in three months with a girl who he was spending every night with since the separation began. I do not wish him harm but he seems to be using me as a scapegoat and acting like I want to hurt him. All I want is what is fair for both of us and for our business to continue to thrive. I mean well I'd like more than that...to have my husband back...but ultimately I will be happy if he is happy, whatever it takes.
So yeah, can I email with a subject line: "All business and with all due respect,"...and then lay out the reason that I would like to bypass the lawyers? Or should I just go through the lawyers and add to the debt?
Can I email my husband without being disrespectful when I am trying to help both of us in the long run? Is there any reasoning with him? I can't stand being his enemy when he is the one who wanted this and I did nothing wrong (okay, I know it takes two...but I never cheated...but I am a pleaser and submissive and then can be passive aggressive at times...so to all of my friends and family I am amazing and kind and sweet and awesome but my husband thinks I am the root of his problems when really I think he just keeps trading one thing for the next seeking out his own happiness). But anyway, he wanted a separation because he said that I wasn't happy and then he fell in love in three months with a girl who he was spending every night with since the separation began. I do not wish him harm but he seems to be using me as a scapegoat and acting like I want to hurt him. All I want is what is fair for both of us and for our business to continue to thrive. I mean well I'd like more than that...to have my husband back...but ultimately I will be happy if he is happy, whatever it takes.
So yeah, can I email with a subject line: "All business and with all due respect,"...and then lay out the reason that I would like to bypass the lawyers? Or should I just go through the lawyers and add to the debt?
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