Bit of a long one.
I'm a bit of a problem situation. My boyfriend and I are currently in a mid-distance relationship (not far enough away to not see each other at all, but much less than we are used to - about 1hr drive) and having to adapt to this a bit. Although I get to see him midweek occasionally ( I work in London and he is on the other side) we don't get to see each other all that often and if it is midweek, it is really only for a few hours which is typically get dinner. watch an episode of TV and then bed!
The issue I have is that his friend from home is constantly under the impression that when my bf comes home for the weekend, it is his inherent right to be seeing him the majority of the time. This has caused a fair amount of tension between the two of us, as although I have no problem with him and his friend seeing each other, it is always a bit infuriating because it always ends up being all day Saturday and then an expectation of the afternoon of the other. Whilst this is annoying enough in itself, it is then made worse by the friend constantly making digs at the both of us saying we are spending too much time together and trying to crash our get-togethers etc.
The thing that has caused me to write this post is the fact that whilst we were out shopping yesterday, we bumped into said friend who then started following us around and not taking a hint to leave! When my boyfriend was picking something up and it was just the two of us, he then turns round to me and says, oh yeah [boyfriend] has disappeared but that's because he's gone, he's running away from you because he thinks you're too intense, though by the way if you leave now you could probably catch him? I then was in a really bad mood for the rest of that day but as bf was seeing him later that evening I really didn't think I could say anything.
I have talked at length to my boyfriend about this and other "sigh, couples" digs coming from this friend and his answer has always been that I should talk to him about it. I really do feel that this "joke" has crossed a line though and it has actually quite upset me as it feels like veiled criticism that is totally invalid. I think that the time has come for my bf to say something to the friend but not really sure whether I should push for this when I talk to him about it later. Just wanted to know what TSR thought!
I'm a bit of a problem situation. My boyfriend and I are currently in a mid-distance relationship (not far enough away to not see each other at all, but much less than we are used to - about 1hr drive) and having to adapt to this a bit. Although I get to see him midweek occasionally ( I work in London and he is on the other side) we don't get to see each other all that often and if it is midweek, it is really only for a few hours which is typically get dinner. watch an episode of TV and then bed!
The issue I have is that his friend from home is constantly under the impression that when my bf comes home for the weekend, it is his inherent right to be seeing him the majority of the time. This has caused a fair amount of tension between the two of us, as although I have no problem with him and his friend seeing each other, it is always a bit infuriating because it always ends up being all day Saturday and then an expectation of the afternoon of the other. Whilst this is annoying enough in itself, it is then made worse by the friend constantly making digs at the both of us saying we are spending too much time together and trying to crash our get-togethers etc.
The thing that has caused me to write this post is the fact that whilst we were out shopping yesterday, we bumped into said friend who then started following us around and not taking a hint to leave! When my boyfriend was picking something up and it was just the two of us, he then turns round to me and says, oh yeah [boyfriend] has disappeared but that's because he's gone, he's running away from you because he thinks you're too intense, though by the way if you leave now you could probably catch him? I then was in a really bad mood for the rest of that day but as bf was seeing him later that evening I really didn't think I could say anything.
I have talked at length to my boyfriend about this and other "sigh, couples" digs coming from this friend and his answer has always been that I should talk to him about it. I really do feel that this "joke" has crossed a line though and it has actually quite upset me as it feels like veiled criticism that is totally invalid. I think that the time has come for my bf to say something to the friend but not really sure whether I should push for this when I talk to him about it later. Just wanted to know what TSR thought!
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