Hi,
I could really do with some advice, please.
Firstly, I'm an Asian Pakistani (yes this is important).
My sister has been married for 2 years. She C H O S E to have an arranged marriage but we now think that he only married her for a Visa for the UK as he's from Pakistan. During their "getting to know each other" phase, he promised her the moon and the stars, children, everything etc. He was an introvert but we thought that was only because he was nervous etc (as he claimed at the time). Since he's got his visa, he's completely and utterly changed but more of that below.
We believe that her husband is gay and is being blackmailed by someone who caught him with a guy at his workplace, after hours. This assumption is based on a phone conversation that took place a few months ago which she overheard. Halfway through the convo, he realised and suddenly started referring to himself in 3rd person and calling this other guy a girl to throw her off but she'd already heard everything and things started to click into place for my sister based on his behaviour etc.
He constantly blows cold/hot with my sister, has absolutely NO interest her whatsoever, sex life is nonexistent from day one (and even if it does rarely happen, it must only be with the lights off), still lives at home with her and refuses to do anything that requires commitment or ties them together (mortgage/children/holiday/joint bank account etc), doesn't fund anything for her, is out all hours of the day for "work" (retail store) but is not paid accordingly to the 60/70 weekly hours he apparently works, point blank refuses any type of intimacy even something simple like holding hands, he has a 2nd "work" phone that is hidden away but he'll spend all night texting and having secret phone calls on it but he clears everything from the phone. Which regular retail worker needs a work phone that you get calls/texts from at 3am/5am/9pm etc? It's blatant lies. There's a town not too far from where we live where he 100% refuses to go to since the phone call and we think that the blackmailer or other person lives there but we don't know how to find out.
Being a Pakistani, divorce is rare in our families. However, if we could prove he's gay/cheating, my sister could get out of this unhappy marriage that she's trapped in:(. Can anyone please help, we're desperate! Thank you.
Ps, there is no one else that we can go to in either family. So it's just me and her. I love my sister, and I need to help her but I'm out of my depth here, hence why I'm asking for help on TSR!
I could really do with some advice, please.
Firstly, I'm an Asian Pakistani (yes this is important).
My sister has been married for 2 years. She C H O S E to have an arranged marriage but we now think that he only married her for a Visa for the UK as he's from Pakistan. During their "getting to know each other" phase, he promised her the moon and the stars, children, everything etc. He was an introvert but we thought that was only because he was nervous etc (as he claimed at the time). Since he's got his visa, he's completely and utterly changed but more of that below.
We believe that her husband is gay and is being blackmailed by someone who caught him with a guy at his workplace, after hours. This assumption is based on a phone conversation that took place a few months ago which she overheard. Halfway through the convo, he realised and suddenly started referring to himself in 3rd person and calling this other guy a girl to throw her off but she'd already heard everything and things started to click into place for my sister based on his behaviour etc.
He constantly blows cold/hot with my sister, has absolutely NO interest her whatsoever, sex life is nonexistent from day one (and even if it does rarely happen, it must only be with the lights off), still lives at home with her and refuses to do anything that requires commitment or ties them together (mortgage/children/holiday/joint bank account etc), doesn't fund anything for her, is out all hours of the day for "work" (retail store) but is not paid accordingly to the 60/70 weekly hours he apparently works, point blank refuses any type of intimacy even something simple like holding hands, he has a 2nd "work" phone that is hidden away but he'll spend all night texting and having secret phone calls on it but he clears everything from the phone. Which regular retail worker needs a work phone that you get calls/texts from at 3am/5am/9pm etc? It's blatant lies. There's a town not too far from where we live where he 100% refuses to go to since the phone call and we think that the blackmailer or other person lives there but we don't know how to find out.
Being a Pakistani, divorce is rare in our families. However, if we could prove he's gay/cheating, my sister could get out of this unhappy marriage that she's trapped in:(. Can anyone please help, we're desperate! Thank you.
Ps, there is no one else that we can go to in either family. So it's just me and her. I love my sister, and I need to help her but I'm out of my depth here, hence why I'm asking for help on TSR!
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