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Is this a rejection or does he want to get past the issue?

Basically I've been interested in this guy since February and have seen him a bit in social situations with others and we have also had online conversations. I was never quite sure if he liked me but he had shown some signs/interest (he has a shy personality). We had never had any alone time together until about a week and a half ago when we were both leaving a bar and he turns to me and asks me if I wanted to stay over at his place. I first decline as I'm not just looking for sex but I change my mind later and go back to his, though tell him I won't stay over. When I get to his he didn't try anything which really confused me. Instead he told me he liked me multiple times but then kept apologising for the fact that he was drunk and said we should probably have this conversation when he's sober. He got a bit more sober over the couple of hours and he just kept asking me questions about myself, like about what it was like for me growing up etc. I wa s pretty uncomfortable as I don't usual go back to guys houses and also wasn't receptive when he told me he liked me and didn't really ask him any questions back, this was all because I was confused as to if he just wanted sex or not and was reluctant to open up emotionally if that was the case. I was quite uncomfortable in the situation and he picked up that things were awkward and he said that he thinks it's because we're talking one on one for the first time without the security of loud music, other people. Anyway, I wouldn't say it was all awkward and we have some nice conversations, laugh at some stuff, though he was always coming up with the topics. I go back home at about 4.30am.

Fast forward to 2 nights later when I see him in the club and he was being noticeably off with me. I assume it'e because he felt like I rejected him as I never told him I like him back so on my way home I text him basically pointed out how I felt that he was being weird with me and that he had said he liked me and I wanted to know what that means. I also apologised for not saying I like him back but that I did. 2 days later and I still don't get a response, so I Facebook him this:

Hi, sorry for a possible drunk text the other night . .
Though I think there were probably some valid points/questions in there somewhere
If you regret saying anything that's absolute fine. But I rather just be told rather than not be told anything



He replies nearly a week later saying this:

Hey *myname*. Don't sweat it, drunk texts are fine, and yes you did have some valid reasons for it/them. I don't regret saying anything, you're a nice girl and particularly attractive too, which is sort of a good combo, no? That said, I'm not entirely sure I can hear clicking, you know? :/ Like, our conversations sort of end up very quickly in us frantically trying to find conversational material. What do you think?

Also, you needn't have apologised for the other night in your text, I think I was waaay worse off than you
!


I've responded to his message explaining how the conversational problems have been because I get shy when I like someone and that I never even knew if he liked me or not. Also I explained how I was confused and uncomfortable the night I went to his which he obviously picked up on. The over all gist of the message was that it takes me longer than average to get comfortable with someone I like and I would like to hang out again to see if things can get more comfortable/develop, which I say I think they now will be able to now that we are finally on the same page. And I said it's up to him.

I'm still waiting for his response but I haven't been able to tell if his message was him simply rejecting me or him communicating his worries etc. He asks for my opinion so not sure what he's trying to get out of it. I really like him and will be really upset if things can't go any further just because of me messaging up the other night.

And opinions and advice would be welcome. Thanks.




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