Which is yours? Fear of Abandonment or Fear of Engulfment?

Recently I've been reading a bit about terms which psychoanalysts call fear of abandonment or fear of engulfment, which are roughly at opposite ends of a spectrum. I'm just curious to see whether people are naturally inclined one way or the other. And I wonder if knowing which one you tend towards can help you understand relationship/dating difficulties more? As for me, I'm pretty much an 'engulfment' person. This characteristic really got to me though: "Seduces the other and then withholds." :S Anyway, here's the link, and you go to the table of opposites and try and work out which one you might be. Fear of Abandonment or Fear of Engulfment?

Put the internet to work for you. via Personal Recipe 2629979