Anytime I want to do something that she doesn't agree with, she always throws it in my face saying "John, has to get his way again"; which really annoys me, just because I want to do something my way I'm viewed as a spoiled brat but when she wants something her way there is nothing wrong with that.
Some stupid examples:
1 - I was trying to help her make dessert for 4th of July BBQ, and I wanted to put icing on a couple cupcakes the way I use to do when I was younger and immediately she didn't want me to touch any of the cupcakes and said she wants to do them her way and wants them all to be the same. My logic is we are going to a simple BBQ and it's not like you are making these cupcakes for the president of the United States; why can't I just put icing on 2 damn cupcakes.
2 - She always says why do you always have to do the opposite of what I do. To my response in my head is you always do the opposite of what I do, but the part that's annoying is I never find it an issue to bring it up to her and it doesn't really bother me if I change something she did.
a. It's stupid stuff like, I walk around when I'm shaving and go into one of our empty rooms with some storage boxes we have laying around and she says why do you keep on opening the door when I want it closed; I don't want to see the boxes.
b. Or I'll pull up the blinds in the morning in one of our bedrooms that she uses the closet in and she says why do you keep pulling the shades open when I walk in here in the morning with no clothes on to get dressed; mind you, we are on the 2nd floor and unless someone has binoculars on the house 24/7 no one will ever see you!
c. Or she will lower the A/C when she goes to bed early and when I go to bed later it feels really cold so I end up bringing it up and she has a comment to say about this too.
I don't understand why she has to bring this up and make it sound like because I do these things I'm against her or it's me getting my way. I don't know if it's because she has a "type A" personality that is driving all this but this is very frustrating to me on the receiving end.
We are both dominant in the relationship and we constantly bicker about stupid crap like this and I just feel like sometimes in a relationship 1 spouse has to be a bit more dominant than the other just to keep things moving forward. Or if it's something trivial just make me happy and let me do it my way; just like I let you do it your way when you want to do something.
Some stupid examples:
1 - I was trying to help her make dessert for 4th of July BBQ, and I wanted to put icing on a couple cupcakes the way I use to do when I was younger and immediately she didn't want me to touch any of the cupcakes and said she wants to do them her way and wants them all to be the same. My logic is we are going to a simple BBQ and it's not like you are making these cupcakes for the president of the United States; why can't I just put icing on 2 damn cupcakes.
2 - She always says why do you always have to do the opposite of what I do. To my response in my head is you always do the opposite of what I do, but the part that's annoying is I never find it an issue to bring it up to her and it doesn't really bother me if I change something she did.
a. It's stupid stuff like, I walk around when I'm shaving and go into one of our empty rooms with some storage boxes we have laying around and she says why do you keep on opening the door when I want it closed; I don't want to see the boxes.
b. Or I'll pull up the blinds in the morning in one of our bedrooms that she uses the closet in and she says why do you keep pulling the shades open when I walk in here in the morning with no clothes on to get dressed; mind you, we are on the 2nd floor and unless someone has binoculars on the house 24/7 no one will ever see you!
c. Or she will lower the A/C when she goes to bed early and when I go to bed later it feels really cold so I end up bringing it up and she has a comment to say about this too.
I don't understand why she has to bring this up and make it sound like because I do these things I'm against her or it's me getting my way. I don't know if it's because she has a "type A" personality that is driving all this but this is very frustrating to me on the receiving end.
We are both dominant in the relationship and we constantly bicker about stupid crap like this and I just feel like sometimes in a relationship 1 spouse has to be a bit more dominant than the other just to keep things moving forward. Or if it's something trivial just make me happy and let me do it my way; just like I let you do it your way when you want to do something.
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