Interesting topic that I am sure everyone with kids can relate to. There was a debate going on when I was listening to the radio this morning about whether or not kids should be allowed to sleep in the bed with their parents (we are assuming young kids here and not 18yr olds :surprise:). Some of the callers argued the kids should be sleeping in their own beds early on and not develop a dependency. Others said they loved having their kids in bed, how precious those moments were, enjoy them while they last. When the topic of sex came up, some of the callers who let their young kids sleep in their bed stated that as long as the bed was big enough they would just keep the kid to one side of the bed while they did their act.
So, for the members of TAM, what are your thoughts? Is there up to an age where it is acceptable to have kids sleeping in bed with the parents? If it goes on too long is it the sign of a possible problem (maybe using the child as a way to avoid spending alone time with each other)?
For myself, our first kid probably slept in the bed with us until maybe 8-9 months old. It was just easier for my wife to get him to bed this way and be ready for his feedings, and really we were first time parents trying to figure it all out. Eventually though, we decided enough was enough. It was impacting both our sleep (him tossing and turning, digging feet into our backs, etc...) and especially for me, I was so paranoid that I would roll over and crush him that I had a hard time getting settled in. It was also impacting the time that we were spending together as a couple. Our other 2 kids really never had a desire to sleep in the bed with us, so it was much easier. Funny enough as well, even now my oldest (7yrs old) will periodically try to convince us to sleep in our bed (or he will come into our room in the middle of the night which I then escort him back to his room). For my wife and I, bedtime is pretty much the only alone time we get, so it has been important for us to make the most of that (not just sex, but curling up watching a show/movie, talking, etc...)
So, for the members of TAM, what are your thoughts? Is there up to an age where it is acceptable to have kids sleeping in bed with the parents? If it goes on too long is it the sign of a possible problem (maybe using the child as a way to avoid spending alone time with each other)?
For myself, our first kid probably slept in the bed with us until maybe 8-9 months old. It was just easier for my wife to get him to bed this way and be ready for his feedings, and really we were first time parents trying to figure it all out. Eventually though, we decided enough was enough. It was impacting both our sleep (him tossing and turning, digging feet into our backs, etc...) and especially for me, I was so paranoid that I would roll over and crush him that I had a hard time getting settled in. It was also impacting the time that we were spending together as a couple. Our other 2 kids really never had a desire to sleep in the bed with us, so it was much easier. Funny enough as well, even now my oldest (7yrs old) will periodically try to convince us to sleep in our bed (or he will come into our room in the middle of the night which I then escort him back to his room). For my wife and I, bedtime is pretty much the only alone time we get, so it has been important for us to make the most of that (not just sex, but curling up watching a show/movie, talking, etc...)
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