Hey all,
I really don't know what to say/do. I met this guy in January (not really that long ago) and we have met three times in person, we get on brilliantly and we are very much alike. After each meeting, he would always message me and we would still continue our conversations. After the first meeting, we still talked (I only have him on Facebook, he hasn't got a job and what little money he does have, he gives it to his mum so he cannot afford the upkeep of a mobile) but in the early days we messaged every day, pretty much continuous, but I know things can be like that at the start whilst getting to know each other. Yet, at times, he would disappear. Anyway, we met a second time, again it was great, and we still continued talking. I know it's hard to decipher someone's intentions over a computer screen but his messages were very keen, I'm always making him laugh and he would always send cute stickers (lame I know).
So, the third meeting was nearly a month ago, I invited him along to a gig, but because he lives quite far and he would have to leave early, I said he could stay at mine. Anyway, we've both got a dirty sense of humour and we made suggestive comments about *potential* things happening when we got back to mine, but he is extremely shy and I knew that if anything was to happen, I'd be making the first move. So the gig was great, we got back to mine, very chilled and we played cards. No sex happened, but he was very intimate in so far that he was spooning me all night, stroking my hair and face, and generally being sweet. Now, at least on my part, I wouldn't let someone/do that to a guy if I wasn't at least interested, and this is the crux of the matter because I don't understand what he wants or what his intentions are.
Anyway, after the third meeting, we still messaged, he was also the same in messages and still seemed keen. But, lately he has been taking a long time to reply to my messages. I know people can be busy and he recently moved houses, to an area where his friends live, so he may very well be busy with them. He would often go up to 6 days without messaging me (I was too scared to see if he was active in chat) but either way he would end up messaging me and we'd continue talking.
I had a really bad week - I had three essays due on the same day, and exams to revise for, so out of the blue I deactivated my Facebook and didn't tell anyone (or him). I genuinely did it because of added distraction, but I was also annoyed that again we had gone 5 days without talking and I'm not the type of girl to keep sending messages or questioning what he has been up to. Anyway, 3 days into being away from Facebook, he randomly emailed me (he sent me a song a couple of months back as a one off, so he had my email) and he asked how I was. I was shocked and somewhat happy, but I don't know how to take it - he clearly searched through his sent box, and thus spared a thought for me, and then emailed. But again, I replied, and he would sporadically reply every few days. He emailed me Sunday and I just haven't replied because I kind of feel like I'm flogging a dead horse.
The weird thing is that I've been back on Facebook a week now, and I've seen that he has been active in chat, yet he still sent me an email and not messaged me on Facebook :/ I just don't know whether to reply to the email? I don't know where I stand with him, the content of his messages and actions (when he stayed over and taking time to email) at least indicates that he cares in some way. And I can also see from the other side that I'm the one who deactivated my Facebook without telling him, but I explained in the email I was busy and everything was fine after that. Can someone advise me if I should email back/send Facebook message/or wait in vein for him to message me on Facebook? I'm not fragile, I like the truth. I'll be even more upset if he's not interested anymore, and just keeping up talking because either he would value a friendship or not. We both said when we started talking that we hate guys/girls who are dishonest and we like the truth. He's also very shy and I can often be very blunt and I don't want to say something harsh (yet diplomatic) if he's actually thinking I'm not interested, when I am. I'm just so frustrated and I just want the truth, I just don't know the best way to go about it.
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